What should I do about this female friend?

I checked your post history and it's actually unbelievable , pretty sure I commented on one of them months ago. Good luck!

U can understand him though, right? Sometimes you feel strongly about someone, even though it's hopeless. I guess not everyone deals with it well. It's definitely not healthy.

"Move on" is such an easy thing to say, but very difficult to do. Especially as I see her all the time. Do you have any constructive advice I could really use it.

Yeah, I can understand, however, that sort of behaviour isn't nice when you're on the receiving end. I hate turning him down cause he is my best friend, and I've turned down loads of people but it's harder when he's your best friend.

Of course, if it were that easy you could have done it by now, but by obsessing over her, how has that impacted on your life? How many girls even that may have been interested in you have you missed because you only had eyes for one? How many times have you been upset over this girl?

Take your mind off her. I had to tell my friend that if he continues with he suffocating behaviour, I don't want to be friends with him - He's putting a lot of pressure on me and its as if I have nothing else to deal with. I don't want that to come to this but, it's draing me emotionally, I'm not in a good mental state and he knows this, yet persists.

Tell your our friend you need to take a break. Don't contact her, pick up new hobbies, meet other people. If you think of her, immediately do something else and even if you want to think of her, force yourself to do something else.

To be honest if it were me I would have cut him out of my life already. Just the fact that he is still persisting despite you being very clear and being made uncomfortable by it. It just shows a complete lack of respect for you.

I've never had a girlfriend so maybe my closeness to this girl is because of that?

I know exactly how you feel, I was in the exact same boat.
Try distancing yourself from her for a bit and see what happens, you might feel better, in which case, great! But if you don't, you will need to put your attention onto someone or something else.

Dude this isn't healthy for you. Meet other women. Hell, even make some male friends and hang out with them. Maybe you have friends but the way you're acting here (no offence) you don't have any. I was in a 3 year relationship and we broke up (and it wasn't my choice) which was obviously gutting. I no contacted for a couple weeks, spent all my free time relaxing (enjoying my favourite shows, going out and meeting people, hanging out with friends) and after that I had moved on, we're even able to talk once every few weeks as friends, to see how each other are doing.

This sh!t mental state is only lasting as long as you let it. You need to start focusing on yourself. What I found helped me move on very quickly was by seeing what my future is, almost like a new timeline. eg, I'll hang out with friends, go to the gym, ace my studies, get the job that I want at the end of it and have a fantastic time working my way up the ranks, meeting new awesome people (because they're all out there) and everything. Looking at it that way, it made everything before that point seem like it wouldn't have any sway on that future. You just got to see yourself as a desirable person with a bright future ahead of you. Then you'll see that cutting this girl out of your life (at least until you're ready to make it a casual friendship) is no biggie.

Stop dragging yourself down with noone will ever want me, I will never want anyone except this girl and I'm so depressed etc etc. You'll believe it as long as you tell yourself to believe it.

This is exactly and completely your problem. Period.

Once you get a girlfriend, you'll notice a change in your attitude to your female friend like the difference between night and day.

You may even not particularly care about this female friend at all!

But mostly you'll notice you stop being so needy and desperate to impress her and make her happy and all that subconscious and not so subconscious stuff you do in the vain suppressed hope she falls for you (she won't).


Easier said than done at your point of experience, but really do make a concious and serious effort to sort of spread your interest net far and wide. Explore possibilities with other girls. Improve your social skills, your look, your 'game', etc and just put yourself out there.and eventually someone else will take notice and actually want you to do the nasty with her, and date and cuddle and all that yucky stuff.


It'll be for the best, good luck dude.



Chancves are

I am sad all the time because of this situation. But I am not willing to end my friendship with her. :/