I’ve recently started dating someone (24 M, 25 F) and he has a lot of female friends, most of which are failed talking stages. I wouldn’t be bothered if they were romantically involved a long time ago, but some of these girls are as recent as just before we started dating. he talks to them all the time and also hangs out with them one on one.
I am not comfortable with this at all and have expressed my concerns to him about it. We have only been on 3 dates but they’ve all been very long with staying over involved but we’ve been talking for nearly 2 months.
I feel as though I can’t ask him to get rid of them at this stage as we haven’t had the exclusivity chat. He tells me that he sees them all as purely platonic but I don’t know if I can trust that as he met them through dating apps, had sex with and then decided he just wanted to be friends.
I’m not naive and I don’t trust him yet, but I wonder why he’s been so open about it at the same time? If there was something to hide surely he would have kept these “friendships” a secret?
I’d like hear a man’s perspective is on this and also anyone who’s been through something similar.
he did say that as soon as things became serious he would distance himself from them but I’m not sure I’d even be fully okay with that. If they’d been friends for years and nothing ever happened, or even if it did but it was years ago, I’d be okay with it. The fact he’s now “friends” with recent hookups just doesn’t sit well with me. What should I do?