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    Sick of being criticised by people because I don't always think straight. I tend to forget stuff easily and can get get confused it's worse when I'm around people. Like I was on a placement as a student nurse and answering phones makes me a bit nervous but I knew I had to get over it so I volunteered for phone duty. Told myself that it's just fear and that I'd be fine. I got a phone call from a woman from some financial team asking for a gp number. I was polite and said hold on why I looked on the computor. By the time I'd checked I forgot what she wanted so asked again she said 'I've already told you I'd like the number for the gp of 'such a body'. I'd forgotten how to get to it so told her to hold on while I asked for help. They told me to put her through to admin but I wasn't sure how to put through calls on that phone no one had told me so I asked someone for the number to give her which is what I did. I said sorry in a quiet voice lol and tried to be polite. The woman on the phone said 'you should be putting me through really, very unprofessional'. She didn't report me but told my mentor that I'd left the phone off the hook, grunted and was unprofessional. I passed the training but haven't worked as a nurse I know I'd just struggle with all the multitasking and quick thinking required. I'm fine with academic assignments where I can work on my own and have time to think but I struggle with things if I can't plan them first.

    I've given up on being a nurse I wouldn't enjoy it anyway so Im starting another career which will require me to think quickly in parts but it's what I've always wanted to do (occupational therapy). A woman who I do sports with asked how my nursing was going and I told her she then said 'I'm not being funny but if I went on a ward and you were in it I'd just turn round and walk out' She was serious as she also told people not to ask me about blood pressure (they were going to) as I wouldn't know. It really annoyed me but with me being very quietly and not assertive I didn't say anything to her.

    I don't know why I'm like this though, I've always been an introvert and enjoy mostly my own company I find it hard to concentrate on general chit chat as it doesn't interest me. My boyfriend annoys me when he says I don't think clearly, that I'm brain dead and that it's like talking to a brick wall. I try to concentrate but sometimes when he is talking I lose interest and my mind starts wandering, I'm just no good at socialising. Like today he sent a text saying that he couldn't go to the gym with me as he was busy. He has a sore shoulder so I asked him when his appointment was I said did you have it today or was it on Friday and he just replied with this.

    'I dont know what 2say, l told u a few times yesterday it was 2day. I even told u again when l gave u the £50 I owed you. YES l did c the doc this morning about my shoulder, had an x/ray & l will get an appointment date 4 a scan in 2wks x

    I have now got this kind of reputation with him where I'm dopy/forgetful even though he forgets things and I don't make a big deal of it. He said that I should see a psychiatrist and that he thinks I need to see one any way due to low sex drive. I'm happy within myself though I just like being on my own and function better alone for some reason. I guess it's selfishness but I'm only interested in things that concern my life rather than chit chat. I was interested in helping get my boyfriends shoulder right I care about him but when he starts going on about my dopyness I just think **** off. It's like the more I try to interact with people the more I show myself up.
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    I would rather have a slow pet dinosaur than a quick lion.
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    You weren't ready to deal with customers ready to shoot you down over the phone for wasting even a millisecond. You just needed a bit more time to settle in. I think it's how you handled the angry customer's jibe that landed you in further hot water (with your sports mate and your boyfriend) - you didn't move on from it and made the same mistakes.
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    Oh my, you sound just like me, I'm very forgetful/ditzy/dopey in general. I can't think on the spot, I'm a terribly slow thinker. I can never remember anything, things people say to me I just forget instantly and can't remember things I've said etc.
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    Sick of being criticised by people because I don't always think straight. I tend to forget stuff easily and can get get confused it's worse when I'm around people. Like I was on a placement as a student nurse and answering phones makes me a bit nervous but I knew I had to get over it so I volunteered for phone duty. Told myself that it's just fear and that I'd be fine. I got a phone call from a woman from some financial team asking for a gp number. I was polite and said hold on why I looked on the computor. By the time I'd checked I forgot what she wanted so asked again she said 'I've already told you I'd like the number for the gp of 'such a body'. I'd forgotten how to get to it so told her to hold on while I asked for help. They told me to put her through to admin but I wasn't sure how to put through calls on that phone no one had told me so I asked someone for the number to give her which is what I did. I said sorry in a quiet voice lol and tried to be polite. The woman on the phone said 'you should be putting me through really, very unprofessional'. She didn't report me but told my mentor that I'd left the phone off the hook, grunted and was unprofessional. I passed the training but haven't worked as a nurse I know I'd just struggle with all the multitasking and quick thinking required. I'm fine with academic assignments where I can work on my own and have time to think but I struggle with things if I can't plan them first.

    I've given up on being a nurse I wouldn't enjoy it anyway so Im starting another career which will require me to think quickly in parts but it's what I've always wanted to do (occupational therapy). A woman who I do sports with asked how my nursing was going and I told her she then said 'I'm not being funny but if I went on a ward and you were in it I'd just turn round and walk out' She was serious as she also told people not to ask me about blood pressure (they were going to) as I wouldn't know. It really annoyed me but with me being very quietly and not assertive I didn't say anything to her.

    I don't know why I'm like this though, I've always been an introvert and enjoy mostly my own company I find it hard to concentrate on general chit chat as it doesn't interest me. My boyfriend annoys me when he says I don't think clearly, that I'm brain dead and that it's like talking to a brick wall. I try to concentrate but sometimes when he is talking I lose interest and my mind starts wandering, I'm just no good at socialising. Like today he sent a text saying that he couldn't go to the gym with me as he was busy. He has a sore shoulder so I asked him when his appointment was I said did you have it today or was it on Friday and he just replied with this.

    'I dont know what 2say, l told u a few times yesterday it was 2day. I even told u again when l gave u the £50 I owed you. YES l did c the doc this morning about my shoulder, had an x/ray & l will get an appointment date 4 a scan in 2wks x

    I have now got this kind of reputation with him where I'm dopy/forgetful even though he forgets things and I don't make a big deal of it. He said that I should see a psychiatrist and that he thinks I need to see one any way due to low sex drive. I'm happy within myself though I just like being on my own and function better alone for some reason. I guess it's selfishness but I'm only interested in things that concern my life rather than chit chat. I was interested in helping get my boyfriends shoulder right I care about him but when he starts going on about my dopyness I just think **** off. It's like the more I try to interact with people the more I show myself up.
    You remind me of myself a little bit apart from the dopey part we're both introverts and some people just don't understand us. I don't think your dopey we all forget things and some of us need time to learn things so don't blame yourself and ignore the people bad mouthing you. Don't let your boyfriend speak to you like that he sounds very disrespectful, stand up for yourself.
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    I think this would improve if you did speak and get involved with people more. I've experienced the same sort of thing; being very quiet myself people have commented on how I used to seem startled and take a while to respond when they approached me. Being introverted I think you focus so much on your own thoughts so you don't pay attention to the things people are telling you (so leading to the forgetfulness) and the slowness to respond to situations properly such as in the phonecall you described.

    You may also want to consider whether this is a recent thing, or whether you've always struggled with this?
    Linking this with your low sex drive (assuming it isn't normal for you) stress, depression and anxiety can lead to a sort of 'brain fog' which involves slowness and forgetfulness.
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    I'd also suggest looking up situational judgment questions used in aptitude tests, especially those that focus on dealing with customers. Look carefully at the feedback on each question. That way you'll no longer be "shown up" at work.
 
 
 
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