He's horrible

I want to watch the movie . And I'd feel bad for backing out.

I highly doubt you're being completely honest here, with us or yourself.

You could watch the move with anyone else, not seeing it with him won't prevent you seeing it at all.

You also logically know you have nothing to feel bad for if you back out and don't take him because he is an ass and you owe him nothing.


Yet you're going to do it anyway and you're not even being honest with yourself as to why.

That's the only thing I can think of as to why I'm going. I still love the guy .

There are only 2 reasons why a promise should be broken;
1) If it harms your well being physically or psychologically
2) If the other person dies

You qualify for number 1 so call him up and cancel it.

Ah(

If they're the only reasons you can think of, surely you can see what rubbish reasons they are?

Yes, I know you still love him. But love isn't going to protect you and it isn't going to get any better with this guy,

Regardless of your love for him you need to let him go and get him completely out of your life, because you clearly don't have the strength to have him remaining in your life.


I can't tell you what to do. If you're going to go with him you're going to do so regardless of what I or others say. But please listen to me when I tell you it is the stupidest thing you could do. Please, don't be an idiot with your emotional well being. All you are doing is hurting yourself. You're not going to get him back, he's not going to change and all you will do is hurt yourself along the way.

It's SO easy for other people to say "why are you still seeing him get out now" but doing it is a whole other matter entirely. There's a reason women stay with abusive men for so long and that's because they have been so manipulated that they feel like this guy is the only one who will be there for them. Especially if they don't have many close friends to talk to.

OP the fact that you're posting here shows you know that he's not a nice guy and it's the first step admitting there's a problem. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 18 months, he cheated multiple times and I chose to ignore it because I lived for the good moments we had together. I'm not in it any more and my wellbeing is 10000000x better.

You need to cut it off slowly. See less and less of him. I understand how difficult it is but you're stronger than you think. Find someone you can talk to in real life. I was lucky I had a really good friend and whenever I felt like messaging him I messaged her instead. One of the hardest things I ever did was removing that guy from my life. But when I did I found my confidence again. You're worth more, believe me! Good luck.

number two is arrangeable

It's SO easy for other people to say "why are you still seeing him get out now" but doing it is a whole other matter entirely. There's a reason women stay with abusive men for so long and that's because they have been so manipulated that they feel like this guy is the only one who will be there for them. Especially if they don't have many close friends to talk to.

OP the fact that you're posting here shows you know that he's not a nice guy and it's the first step admitting there's a problem. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 18 months, he cheated multiple times and I chose to ignore it because I lived for the good moments we had together. I'm not in it any more and my wellbeing is 10000000x better.

You need to cut it off slowly. See less and less of him. I understand how difficult it is but you're stronger than you think. Find someone you can talk to in real life. I was lucky I had a really good friend and whenever I felt like messaging him I messaged her instead. One of the hardest things I ever did was removing that guy from my life. But when I did I found my confidence again. You're worth more, believe me! Good luck.

How do I end it then? When I drop him off home do I just say yeah it was nice but I don't wanna be in contact with u

Don't take him out at all. Delete him from all social media and block his number. He doesn't need nor deserve an explanation. Move on with your life

Me & my ex boyfriend have decided to watch a movie this evening together. I've passed my driving test so we made a promise ages ago that even if we're not together I'll still have to take him for a ride before anyone else . Now it's come to that stage ..

To be very honest, I don't even want to see him. He's horrible . He's put me down on the way I look, he's spoken ill of me to other girls .. There's just so much but he thinks it okay ..

I can't back out. But please can someone just tell me what to do in the following :

How do I act tomorrow evening when I get him? Cause my mood right now is so off. I don't even want to see him . But he's bought the tickets.What can I do to make him feel bad for the way he's treated me seeing as he doesn't understand by telling him and crying. If he puts his arm around me how can I prevent it without causing a scene ? Sorry it's so long. It's a toxic relationship I've been in. He's really play mind games with me . It's hard to walk away.. I was thinking of just having music really loud in the car to and from there .

Having read the thread its not hard to see everyone thinks he's a *hit.

You are confused and not seeing things clearly. he's obviously making you sad and then you reel off a whole list of things of how hes abusive to you and makes you cry.

Most people are saying just dump him, but you then come up with this idea of a promise. Treating you like crap is a fundamental breach of that and id sat it was implied that you would be on good terms even if you hadnt split. You arent, hes treated you like rubbish so you shouldnt feel anu obligation.

You are weak and making excuses for him. You say you love him but he doesnt love you or have any respecct for you. His abuse is not a display of someone who loves you.

If you naively thought you had to go through with the drive, then i'd have dropped him off at the cinema, the alternative was to take your mum with you, he get his ride and he cna take someone else. Ofc you are your own worst enemy at the moment becayse you dont wnat to face up to the fact hes mistreated you and thats who he is, so you make excuses for him. Dont let people or boys treat you like that in life. Your choice.

Here's an update from last night :it was horrible . Erm, he said I didn't appreciate anything and that's to do with my upbringing and he couldn't care less if I was offended by it at all. It all kicked off after movie when I spoke to him about it all and he asked what I wanted out from it all.. I reversed the car and said I'm gonna take u home and then were done. He flipped majorly and was like open the door I'll walk it . Etc . He pulled the handbrake and shouted at me. I almost got into an accident twice . Cause of him. I've blocked the ****er . I am so done. Yet he still wanted me to call him when I eventually dropped him home he told me to call him on the way back home else he wouldn't let me leave so that he knew I went home. And that's all. Don't bring the ' I told u' . It's fricking hard . Yeah I cried to him. And then I just told him to go do one.