Teacher won't let me share room with a friend because we'll have sex.

I'm 16, gay and and my school is running a trip to the Alps after our AS exams have finished. It's for a week and we have to share a room with one other person (it's a boys' school, for reference). We get to express a preference and I've asked to share with my friend who is also 16, but everyone at school, even the teachers, knows we have sex outside of school.

The teacher running it is refusing to let us share a room because of this, instead trying to make me share with someone I don't get on with, who is homophobic (and seems a bit unhygienic). My dad has emailed an official complaint to the headteacher this morning, stating that as we're paying for it and I'm 16, this is homophobic and grossly unfair. Apart from withdrawing from the trip and going somewhere else with my dad (which I will do if I can't share with my friend), what else can I do? Obviously if I share with my friend we're going to have sex, but there's no way I'm sharing with the guy I've been paired with for now.

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Reply 1

Tiger Rag

22

There's thing you can do. They're within their own GitHub to refuse. Especially if they know you're going to have sex.

Reply 2

ralphie

They can refuse it if they want, find someone else who you dont have a reputation for :dolphin:

ing or deal with it.

Reply 3

Bang Outta Order

20

Original post by ralphie

They can refuse it if they want, find someone else who you dont have a reputation for :dolphin:

ing or deal with it.

tell me you werent shocked by seeing dolphins in your post..tell me that now.
anyway

Original post by Glassapple

but everyone at school, even the teachers, knows we have sex outside of school.

all right so shut up then
IT'S THE SAME THING WITH NOT PUTTING A BOY AND A GIRL IN THE SAME SPACE, *BECAUSE THEY WILL HAVE SEX*

Also you're gonna have to get on with it.
You're gonna end up working with people who are "homophobes" and you can't sit sulking on the sides.

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Reply 4

UWS

21

Ah, the homophobic card. It's just a week, you're just upset because you got cockblocked by your teacher lel

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Reply 5

username2911200

OP

19

Original post by 0to100

all right so shut up then

I can't go back in time and stop them from having this knowledge can I (not that I would want to anyway)? They already know, so not saying anything else about it isn't going to help.

Original post by UWS

Ah, the homophobic card. It's just a week, you just sound upset because you got cockblocked by your teacher lel

If they don't let me share with my friend, I'll withdraw from the trip and not give them any money. I'd rather go somewhere else without the school than not be able to have sex in the room and have to share with someone I don't like.

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Reply 6

faloodeh

18

Lol you again my god.
You said you would have sex with him if you shared a room so why are you mad that the teacher doesnt want you to share in fear of you two having sex?
Its not neccesarily homophobic im sure the teacher would have done the same if anyone else wanted to bang on a trip smh.

Reply 7

Bang Outta Order

20

Original post by Glassapple

I can't go back in time and stop them from having this knowledge can I (not that I would want to anyway)? They already know, so not saying anything else about it isn't going to help.

If they don't let me share with my friend, I'll withdraw from the trip and not give them any money. I'd rather go somewhere else without the school than not be able to have sex and share with someone I don't like.

whatever mate

did you see my edit advise you to get on with things? You can't hide behind the entitlement of calling someone a homophobe, there's gonna be "homophobes" you'll work with all the time, if you ever actually work. Just get on with it and if he touches you then report. Till then 👋

Reply 8

faloodeh

18

Original post by UWS

Ah, the homophobic card. It's just a week, you just sound upset because you got cockblocked by your teacher lel

PRSOM

Reply 9

username2911200

OP

19

Original post by 0to100

whatever mate

did you see my edit advise you to get on with things? You can't hide behind the entitlement of calling someone a homophobe, there's gonna be "homophobes" you'll work with all the time, if you ever actually work. Just get on with it and if he touches you then report. Till then 👋

Yes I saw your edit. If I have to share with the homophobic guy I'll withdraw from the trip and not give the school any money for it. I'm not sharing with someone like that; even if I was sharing with someone not homophobic who I wouldn't have sex with, I'd want to be able to share with my friend if I'm paying over a thousand pounds to go. I wouldn't be able to go anywhere or sleep knowing this guy could physically abuse me, steal from me, damage my stuff, make me feel uncomfortable, etc.

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Reply 10

AspiringUnderdog

21

Maybe question why it should be an issue even if you did have sex since it doesn't affect anyone else. If they do have a reason then maybe you can try to compromise.

Reply 11

username2911200

OP

19

Keeping my ass in my pants for the week is not a realistic aim.

Original post by AspiringUnderdog

Maybe question why it should be an issue even if you did have sex since it doesn't affect anyone else. If they do have a reason then maybe you can try to compromise.

That's what I've done so far by getting my dad to email a complaint to them. I'll have to wait for the reply but as you say, it's not going to affect anyone else if we have sex.

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Reply 12

ralphie

Original post by Glassapple

Keeping my ass in my pants for the week is not a realistic aim.

That's what I've done so far by getting my dad to email a complaint to them. I'll have to wait for the reply but as you say, it's not going to affect anyone else if we have sex.

I'm in the same year as you and im a virgin. Just keep it in your pants for goodness sake, knock off to some porn is you must

Reply 13

Rexar

11

The amount of sex you get amazes me

Reply 14

RetroDisco789

2

Original post by Glassapple

I'm 16, gay and and my school is running a trip to the Alps after our AS exams have finished. It's for a week and we have to share a room with one other person (it's a boys' school, for reference). We get to express a preference and I've asked to share with my friend who is also 16, but everyone at school, even the teachers, knows we have sex outside of school.

The teacher running it is refusing to let us share a room because of this, instead trying to make me share with someone I don't get on with, who is homophobic (and seems a bit unhygienic). My dad has emailed an official complaint to the headteacher this morning, stating that as we're paying for it and I'm 16, this is homophobic and grossly unfair. Apart from withdrawing from the trip and going somewhere else with my dad (which I will do if I can't share with my friend), what else can I do? Obviously if I share with my friend we're going to have sex, but there's no way I'm sharing with the guy I've been paired with for now.

They can do this. It's the same as putting a boy and a girl in a room. Why do you thing because you are gay you should get special treatment?

Reply 15

TrapsterJ

10

I don't think this trip is necessarily a honeymoon but how can I relate? They're in their right to deny you but then again if you want to go balls deep into your friend when you're paying and all they are there for is just escorting and watching over you in the trip so there's that to consider.

But then I don't think it's really an issue of the school being homophobic, as I'm sure they'd do the same with a straight couple. Maybe they're worried about in the night, when everyone's sound asleep, and all the rooms happen to be connected through a single corridor, that they'll be awoken to the sound of some slapping meat and prolonged groans and then the next morning as everyone is rearing up for a great day of skiiing they've got the image of you guys going at it on one of the ski lifts.

I DONT KNOW MAN, but my guess is as good as any lmfao.

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Reply 16

username2110825

6

Ah, to be 16 again. When sex was the only thing you could :dolphin:

ing think about. Good times.

Reply 17

DennyBarwick

3

Original post by Glassapple

I'm 16, gay and and my school is running a trip to the Alps after our AS exams have finished. It's for a week and we have to share a room with one other person (it's a boys' school, for reference). We get to express a preference and I've asked to share with my friend who is also 16, but everyone at school, even the teachers, knows we have sex outside of school.

The teacher running it is refusing to let us share a room because of this, instead trying to make me share with someone I don't get on with, who is homophobic (and seems a bit unhygienic). My dad has emailed an official complaint to the headteacher this morning, stating that as we're paying for it and I'm 16, this is homophobic and grossly unfair. Apart from withdrawing from the trip and going somewhere else with my dad (which I will do if I can't share with my friend), what else can I do? Obviously if I share with my friend we're going to have sex, but there's no way I'm sharing with the guy I've been paired with for now.

Are you known to have sex with ur room mates??. but i think you should be able to share a room whoever you want,

Reply 18

username2911200

OP

19

Original post by ralphie

I'm in the same year as you and im a virgin. Just keep it in your pants for goodness sake, knock off to some porn is you must

That's not the same. I'm not paying over a thousand pounds to share a room with someone for a week, who I can't have sex with. If not I'll cancel the trip and go somewhere else without the school. It shouldn't be up to them who I share with, especially as they let us have a preference in the first place.

Original post by RetroDisco789

They can do this. It's the same as putting a boy and a girl in a room. Why do you thing because you are gay you should get special treatment?

I'm not asking for special treatment, I'm asking to have the same treatment as everyone else, to share with someone I expressed a preference for. If they didn't already know we have sex, we could be doing it without them knowing and that would be the same thing.

Original post by TrapsterJ

X

I don't see how they're in their rights to deny me when I'd be paying for it, it's not like there's a risk of getting someone pregnant. I'm sure the sound of sex isn't going to reach into everyone's room and reverbarate through the entire corridor.

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Reply 19

Sammylou40

20

It's not homophobic at all. They wouldn't let you share with a girl if you were straight. I thought you said your dad didn't care about you?
And come on glassapple, after all your threads on here, you seriously expect us to believe that you aren't enterprising enough to work round this? Why do you want the same guy for a whole week when there's so many other fish in the sea???

Teacher won't let me share room with a friend because we'll have sex.

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