Don't want my friend going the same uni as me

I have a friend from college, whom I wanted to leave in my past. She is judgemental, condemns my appearance and my interests, makes jokes about me not having sex life. Talks with my classmates about me behind my back. She is studying Math and I do History, so she always compares our subjects by saying how hard is Math and how she should have done well, if she was doing History like me. We are both international students and when we just arrived in the UK she was always talking about how she will be going to Oxford after her A-levels, because she feels like this is the only suitable university for her, as she likes this feeling when everybody is dressed in academic gown and lectures take place in ancient buildings. She did not research any other universities until her first year came to an end and our college stated very clearly, that she cannot apply to Oxford as they can't predict her AAA.


On the other hand I was doing one year course and I'm starting Uni at September. I did huge research, visited nearly 10 universities during this year and chose one that suited me best. It is not a Russel Group Uni, but it's in top 25 in the UK and it has interesting modules, internship opportunities, social life, etc. When I showed this uni to my friend for the first time and said, that I will be going there in September, she said that she never heard of it and this must be my level uni, but she would have never chose place like this. However, now she changed her mind. She likes BBB requirements there for her course and modules are now seem interesting to her. She said she is going to visit this uni as soon as possible and then she is going to firm it as her first choice next year.


The problem is, I don't want her to go there. I now regret that I showed it to her and I feel like this is my new life where I don't want to see her. I know, that uni is big and I might not see you over the course time. But even though, it feels for me like she is going to invade my personal space.
I'm trying to show her more universities and degrees there, but she stuck with my uni and I now that if she will go there on the Open Day, she will be even more confident in her choice.


Please, don't say it's morally wrong to count uni as "personal space". I know, it is illogical. I can't help but feel this way. What can I do now to make her change her mind?


Sorry for my grammar errors. As I said, I am an international student still learning English.

Swap out all of her pens for ones that don't work before the exam so they fail all of their exams.

A bit late now as you showed her.
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1. Get on with it as Unis are large places and she has chosen or been accepted yet. You could always tell her or drop her when at Uni. They are big places. She will be expecting to keep contact., but uns are large places and theres no reason you have to see her.
2. Find a new Uni.

She hasnt chosen it yet.

I have a friend from college, whom I wanted to leave in my past. She is judgemental, condemns my appearance and my interests, makes jokes about me not having sex life. Talks with my classmates about me behind my back. She is studying Math and I do History, so she always compares our subjects by saying how hard is Math and how she should have done well, if she was doing History like me. We are both international students and when we just arrived in the UK she was always talking about how she will be going to Oxford after her A-levels, because she feels like this is the only suitable university for her, as she likes this feeling when everybody is dressed in academic gown and lectures take place in ancient buildings. She did not research any other universities until her first year came to an end and our college stated very clearly, that she cannot apply to Oxford as they can't predict her AAA.


On the other hand I was doing one year course and I'm starting Uni at September. I did huge research, visited nearly 10 universities during this year and chose one that suited me best. It is not a Russel Group Uni, but it's in top 25 in the UK and it has interesting modules, internship opportunities, social life, etc. When I showed this uni to my friend for the first time and said, that I will be going there in September, she said that she never heard of it and this must be my level uni, but she would have never chose place like this. However, now she changed her mind. She likes BBB requirements there for her course and modules are now seem interesting to her. She said she is going to visit this uni as soon as possible and then she is going to firm it as her first choice next year.


The problem is, I don't want her to go there. I now regret that I showed it to her and I feel like this is my new life where I don't want to see her. I know, that uni is big and I might not see you over the course time. But even though, it feels for me like she is going to invade my personal space.
I'm trying to show her more universities and degrees there, but she stuck with my uni and I now that if she will go there on the Open Day, she will be even more confident in her choice.


Please, don't say it's morally wrong to count uni as "personal space". I know, it is illogical. I can't help but feel this way. What can I do now to make her change her mind?


Sorry for my grammar errors. As I said, I am an international student still learning English.

I have a friend from college, whom I wanted to leave in my past. She is judgemental, condemns my appearance and my interests, makes jokes about me not having sex life. Talks with my classmates about me behind my back..

You could try explaining to her that you wanted to go to separate unis and that it was originally your choice of university. Some people don't like to be accused of copying. She needs to be independent in her own choices. As said in earlier comments universities are big places, friendship groups are different and your uni choices aren't set in stone at the moment. You will just have to hope things work out for the best, I hope for your sake you leave her in your past she sounds like a vindictive little sh*t. I can only suggest that you fall out with her before uni if you are going to the same one. I know it doesn't seem nice to do so, but it's honestly better to tell someone what you really think of them. No point in being friends with someone that makes you feel bad! Id rather have no friends than have that kind of friendship.

Tell her that you don't want to be her friend. Maybe add in because she's a judgmental, mean person. I do history too, I know your pain. Its a very hard subject indeed. Also, grades do not define intelligence. They define your capability to regurgitate facts in a exam. You can't stop her from going to the university. You can discourage her by saying that you don't want to be her friend. Say she isn't your friend. It might be hard, but it'll be done. It also practical.

Its amazing you can still call her your 'friend'!

thats not a friend, a true friend doesn't do that. shes just a b itch

You really needn't worry. First of all, there's no guarantee she'll even get the grades to get a place there.

I cannot say to her that I don't want her copying me, as this will sound childish. She will say that this is her own choice and she will be kind of right, as who am I to stop her from going to uni she want to go?






Well, this is where the situation gets more difficult. I just called her friend in my first post, because it is hard to describe our relationship. She does not consider me as a friend, she likes to say that she is a loner and she is always on her own. And she tries to be cold with me, as she says, she does not let people become closer to her. But somehow, she is always finds me, sits with me in canteen and library, asks me how am I doing, gives her feedback on what am I doing wrong and when I ask about her she says that she don't want to talk about her problems with me. This is quiet weird type of relationship, because I just cannot stare in the wall and ignore her, when she talks to me.





The uni has a reputation to be very lenient. I checked Unistats and it feels like they even let people with CCC on her course. So even if she fails, they are likely to accept her anyway.


Thank you very much for all of your responds! You are all very-very supportive!

What happened in the end? Cos im in a similar situation (my friend wants to do the exact same subject as me at uni so if we go to the same uni theres no hope of me being able to find new friends) but im still in year 12 so im considering trying to find a different uni... the original uni is the perfect one so is it worth comprimising for a similar course just to go to a uni without them?