Unemployed brother just lays in bed all day
I am worried about my brother. He has not had any employment since he graduated over a year ago. He doesn't socialise, hang out with friends, or do any sport. He was raped a few years ago so I am worried he is suffering badly from ptsd. I have looked on our computers history and I have seen searches about suicide and the most effective suicide methods.
Honestly don't know what to do or how to approach this?
Honestly don't know what to do or how to approach this?
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Original post by loveleest
You live your life the way you want and your brother can live the life he wants.
Terrible advice
Original post by loveleest
You live your life the way you want and your brother can live the life he wants.
Judging from OP's post,her brother life may end soon if he carries out what he is searching.
Original post by Ladymusiclover
Terrible advice
Agreed, what terrible advice
Original post by racticalpole
I am worried about my brother. He has not had any employment since he graduated over a year ago. He doesn't socialise, hang out with friends, or do any sport. He was raped a few years ago so I am worried he is suffering badly from ptsd. I have looked on our computers history and I have seen searches about suicide and the most effective suicide methods.
Honestly don't know what to do or how to approach this?
Honestly don't know what to do or how to approach this?
http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/what-speak-us-about/if-you’re-worried-about-someone-else
http://www.samaritans.org/difficultconversations
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/seeking-help-for-a-mental-health-problem/supporting-someone-else/?o=24607#.WW3S3MbTW2c
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/supporting-someone-who-feels-suicidal/about-suicidal-feelings/?o=10307#.WW3S3MbTW2c
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Did your brother seek therapy after being raped? I think therapy is a good option.Or counselling with other rape victims. Seems like he's not taking it well. Have you spoken to him about what he wants to do in his future? He needs some motivation in his life. Possibly help him with job searching but I think he needs to address and overcome the pain and anguish from his sexual assault before moving further in his life.
Original post by Ladymusiclover
Terrible advice
Original post by bobby147
Judging from OP's post,her brother life may end soon if he carries out what he is searching.
I missed the suicide part out oops
Original post by loveleest
I missed the suicide part out oops
Oh okay. That makes more sense. Phew.
NO ONE GIVE THE TROLLS ATTENTION - they will move on.
Maybe explore the option of getting someone to the house (e.g. from a mental health charity) when your parents are out. Having suffered from similar feelings before, there is a strong reluctance to seek help because you simply cannot see the point as you can't see your situation changing.
I think telling your parents will not aide the situation. You need to gain his trust and confidence in you.
Maybe explore the option of getting someone to the house (e.g. from a mental health charity) when your parents are out. Having suffered from similar feelings before, there is a strong reluctance to seek help because you simply cannot see the point as you can't see your situation changing.
I think telling your parents will not aide the situation. You need to gain his trust and confidence in you.
Original post by 111davey1
Agreed, what terrible advice
Original post by Ladymusiclover
Terrible advice
Im guessing she didn't read the whole post or only just read the title?
As I did the same and thought (when I only read the table) is that just let him do what he wants.
Original post by Anonymous
NO ONE GIVE THE TROLLS ATTENTION - they will move on.
Maybe explore the option of getting someone to the house (e.g. from a mental health charity) when your parents are out. Having suffered from similar feelings before, there is a strong reluctance to seek help because you simply cannot see the point as you can't see your situation changing.
I think telling your parents will not aide the situation. You need to gain his trust and confidence in you.
Maybe explore the option of getting someone to the house (e.g. from a mental health charity) when your parents are out. Having suffered from similar feelings before, there is a strong reluctance to seek help because you simply cannot see the point as you can't see your situation changing.
I think telling your parents will not aide the situation. You need to gain his trust and confidence in you.
I hope when you're saying troll you're not referring to me?
So sorry to hear this, it must be extremely hard for him. I find that getting closure helps me a lot in terms of moving on and it sounds as though he needs to do the same. A professional will be able to help him, or there is many sources available online e.g. Skype/telephone sessions. Obviously it has to be acted upon quickly if he is suicidal 😓 Sitting in staring at the same 4 walls day in day out will only make things worse but I don't want to give any advice incase it's wrong. I really hope everything turns out well.
Original post by bobby147
Try and encourage him to seek professional help for his trauma.
He already has in the past but I do think he needs more. How would I go about encouraging him without sounding like I'm telling him what to do?
Original post by Tiger Rag
How close are you two? Part of me would be tempted to say something to your parents. But that would probably piss him off.
I've never talked to him about anything personal so I guess we could be closer.
Original post by Ladymusiclover
Did your brother seek therapy after being raped? I think therapy is a good option.Or counselling with other rape victims. Seems like he's not taking it well. Have you spoken to him about what he wants to do in his future? He needs some motivation in his life. Possibly help him with job searching but I think he needs to address and overcome the pain and anguish from his sexual assault before moving further in his life.
He did before but it came to an end after a few weeks and I don't think he has had any therapy since. In terms of what he wants to do in the future he doesn't give much away, I remember him saying before that he'll just take any job he can find.
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