Why do Men have to propose ?

I was wondering this, why do Men have to splash out on a expensive ring and take the risk of embrassment? I was watching the World Cup and i see so many Women pundits, footballers doing typical 'male jobs', and wondering why do gender roles towards men still exist ?
Also given Women instigate 70% of divorces in the UK, it's a huge risk for Men nowadays

Reply 1

DrawTheLine

22

Original post by Anonymous

I was wondering this, why do Men have to splash out on a expensive ring and take the risk of embrassment? I was watching the World Cup and i see so many Women pundits, footballers doing typical 'male jobs', and wondering why do gender roles towards men still exist ?
Also given Women instigate 70% of divorces in the UK, it's a huge risk for Men nowadays

Um, men don't have to.

Original post by Anonymous

I was wondering this, why do Men have to splash out on a expensive ring and take the risk of embrassment? I was watching the World Cup and i see so many Women pundits, footballers doing typical 'male jobs', and wondering why do gender roles towards men still exist ?
Also given Women instigate 70% of divorces in the UK, it's a huge risk for Men nowadays

They don't have to but yes traditionally, they have - its even tradition or the man to ask the woman's father's permission to marry/propose. - my dad asked my mum's dad's permission before he proposed.

Women can propose but many just choose not to, as I suspect the majority want to be proposed to.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 3

lipstickjungle

10

Like the person above mentioned ^^ men don't have to and women can but we simply just want to be proposed to and I know many women who would rather have a simple wedding band than an expensive one as long as your intentions are sincere

Original post by lipstickjungle

Like the person above mentioned ^^ men don't have to and women can but we simply just want to be proposed to and I know many women who would rather have a simple wedding band than an expensive one as long as your intentions are sincere

and in turn, the majority of men would rather propose (I would). Yes, it has come about from 100s, if not 1000s of years of tradition, but just because its a long-standing tradition doesn't make it a bad thing, like some would have you believe.

Reply 5

Joleee

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it's not a huge risk in most cases, but you're probably too young to know this yet. most couples will discuss the idea of marriage long before someone proposes; there is no 'omg -- where is this coming from??' moment. the only surprise would be if you discussed marriage previously, and then someone changed their mind.

if you're scared tho, you could always propose with a candied ring and then buy the expensive one after she says 'yes'. or make her propose; it's your relationship.

Reply 6

experienced69

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Original post by Anonymous

I was wondering this, why do Men have to splash out on a expensive ring and take the risk of embrassment?

And what was your conclusion?

Reply 7

username3890778

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Ask the man who is the one spending all that money and proposing

oh ffs here we go

Original post by Anonymous

I was wondering this, why do Men have to splash out on a expensive ring and take the risk of embrassment? I was watching the World Cup and i see so many Women pundits, footballers doing typical 'male jobs', and wondering why do gender roles towards men still exist ?
Also given Women instigate 70% of divorces in the UK, it's a huge risk for Men nowadays

I agree with other people said down below, it's tradition, it's not bad and no one's forcing you to propose. I mean, i don't know who you are, but i guess you can initiate the proposal if you don't want a man doing it, lol, if you don't like the concept. :biggrin:

Reply 10

Compost

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Don't be so hidebound, they don't. I proposed to my husband and he never gave me an engagement ring. I got a boat instead :smile:

- much more fun.

Reply 11

Amy06

10

Women can absolutely propose I assume however some like me would be afraid to in case they say no or think I'm clingy.

Although men have the same fears when proposing so you ever know I may one day :smile:

Reply 12

lipstickjungle

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Original post by Jack22031994

and in turn, the majority of men would rather propose (I would). Yes, it has come about from 100s, if not 1000s of years of tradition, but just because its a long-standing tradition doesn't make it a bad thing, like some would have you believe.