My crush is pressuring me to send nudes
We have recently finished year 11 and i’ve had the strongest feelings for him for like a year and a half, him giving me signs that he also likes me but I was never really 100% certain. Being acquaintances and not even friends, all we did was flirt with each other back and forth.
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
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Original post by Anonymous
We have recently finished year 11 and i’ve had the strongest feelings for him for like a year and a half, him giving me signs that he also likes me but I was never really 100% certain. Being acquaintances and not even friends, all we did was flirt with each other back and forth.
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
If you send them then he will share them with his friends and they with theirs. how does that make you feel.
Dont think its impossible to recover and save images from snapchat.
Have fun. not what I would do though.
1. It's illegal
2. You run the risk of him showing them to everyone if/when the relationship goes sour or even black-mailing you
If you do ever sends nudes to someone, make sure you are 18+ and crop out your face ...that way there is at least a bit of damage control if he distributes it and you don't run the risk of ending up with a criminal record for sending child pornography due to being 18+
2. You run the risk of him showing them to everyone if/when the relationship goes sour or even black-mailing you
If you do ever sends nudes to someone, make sure you are 18+ and crop out your face ...that way there is at least a bit of damage control if he distributes it and you don't run the risk of ending up with a criminal record for sending child pornography due to being 18+
He sounds manipulative ngl.
My personal choice would be to not send it but again it's your choice I guess.
Oh and ps he will share it with his friends
My personal choice would be to not send it but again it's your choice I guess.
Oh and ps he will share it with his friends
asking for nudes is one thing
ghosting or blocking you for not sending nudes or disappearing after you send em is another. then you'll know.
it's the same as leaving a girl for not having sex with you and never speaking to her again. Or doing that after you get what you want. But I never ask for nudes.
When I was single I ask em to shake their arse on cam instead. better deal. dont @ me
ghosting or blocking you for not sending nudes or disappearing after you send em is another. then you'll know.
it's the same as leaving a girl for not having sex with you and never speaking to her again. Or doing that after you get what you want. But I never ask for nudes.
When I was single I ask em to shake their arse on cam instead. better deal. dont @ me
Sounds like a ****boy. You're not even officially going out yet and he hasn't spent time to date you first before trying to go straight into sexual stuff. Sounds like he thinks you're attractive but isn't interested in you as a person. I wouldn't bother, wait for someone who likes you for you, unless you just want one night stand and not to go out.
And I wouldn't send nudes like other people say, people can blackmail you with them if it goes bad and it's illegal under 18 to send them
And I wouldn't send nudes like other people say, people can blackmail you with them if it goes bad and it's illegal under 18 to send them
he is going to show his friends. this is very manipulative. dont,
One option you've got though if you want to think outside the box is to go to a porn site and find a woman with a similar body to yours and screenshot her body but crop out the head. Send him this. It will probably be enough to keep him happy. Bookmark the video where you got the screenshot from also, this is for two reasons. reason 1) incase someone accuses you of distributing child pornography. reason 2. If he spreads the photo to try and shame you, you can just refer people to the video and say it isn't even me therfore negating the shame and making him look like a right idiot.......
He's only interested in one thing, and you deserve better than that.
No respectable guy would ever ask someone for nudes before even going on a date - and even after that it's just wrong to push it once they've said no.
No respectable guy would ever ask someone for nudes before even going on a date - and even after that it's just wrong to push it once they've said no.
It sounds like you want a relationship and that he's not looking for something as serious. It doesn't sound like the two of you would be compatible.
Original post by Anonymous
We have recently finished year 11 and i’ve had the strongest feelings for him for like a year and a half, him giving me signs that he also likes me but I was never really 100% certain. Being acquaintances and not even friends, all we did was flirt with each other back and forth.
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
Please don't do it...
I've been through the exact same thing as you and there were bad consequences. As minors there a legal laws against what you are doing, and if those photos get leaked you will feel intense humiliation and trust me it's really painful.
Stand up for yourself be brave and say no, feel empowered to do what is best for yourself and don't allow yourself to be pressured by any boy.
I'm here for you if you need any help or advice❤️
Original post by Anonymous
We have recently finished year 11 and i’ve had the strongest feelings for him for like a year and a half, him giving me signs that he also likes me but I was never really 100% certain. Being acquaintances and not even friends, all we did was flirt with each other back and forth.
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
So a couple of days ago I thought, since i’m not coming back to my school’s sixth form, I have nothing to lose by just confessing that I’ve liked him. So i started messaging him on Snapchat and then I told him. We continued talking and today he admitted that he’s liked me back however rather than asking me out, despite us both knowing how we supposedly feel about each other, he straight up asked if I wanted to do “things” (as in sexual things). He asked for nudes, I said I don’t want to once, twice, again and he’s saying things like “what’s the point of us liking each other if we’re not doing anything”. Like of course I want to do things with him but does it really have to be all sexual?? Tbh i wouldn’t mind it if they were but I just want us to hang out first, and plus I really really REALLY don’t feel comfortable with sending anything explicit like that on snapchat. He said he promised he wouldn’t screenshot and he’d send back and that if i really liked him then i’d send him pics but no matter how much I thought I liked him (somehow i’ve never had such strong feelings for someone despite him being kinda an ***hole) I just don’t want to. I tried to change the subject but I doubt that’ll last long, and even if it does get dropped I feel like he’d go looking for nudes from other girls. What should i do??
This is very manipulative -and how do you know you can trust him not to screenshot them and share with his friends?
He sounds like he is trying to use your crush just to get a few dodgy pics
You might like him- but if you think about it - he is not being nice and you should not bow in to the pressure
Walk away
I know it might be hard but you will thank yourself in the end.
I did a post explaining reasons about why you shouldn't send nudes
in short: Don't
in short: Don't
Try to put yourself in the shoes of a kid 25 years ago.
For them to 'send a nude', they'd have to get an old-school camera, take them, take the film to a shop and hope the staff didn't look at them, go collect them, pay for them, then post a physical, permanent object to someone with no idea where that physical object would end up. Worth doing? No, because it's too much messing about and the process is too physical and risky.
Photos are not transient things, that'll stop existing when this crush moves on. Once that photo has left your possession, it's permanent and could still exist in 50 years. Think about that...
For them to 'send a nude', they'd have to get an old-school camera, take them, take the film to a shop and hope the staff didn't look at them, go collect them, pay for them, then post a physical, permanent object to someone with no idea where that physical object would end up. Worth doing? No, because it's too much messing about and the process is too physical and risky.
Photos are not transient things, that'll stop existing when this crush moves on. Once that photo has left your possession, it's permanent and could still exist in 50 years. Think about that...
Just don't. He surely doesn't love you for who you are, but your body. To me it sounds like a probable rapist.
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