You cry, try to suck it up and move on.
Don't let yourself fall for them in the first place; that's what I do at least. Haven't wasted my time crushing on someone for over five years. I've wasted it other ways.
Reflect that there is not just one adorable person, there are loads. Reflect that in hindsight the time spend feeling angsty about someone unattainable is a complete waste of your time and life. Distance yourself from the situation as much as you can and find some who is up for it with you. Admittedly at times all of this can be quite difficult.
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What’s your situation if you don’t mind me asking?x
Now listen to me. There is nobody who is unattainable. Someone said to me once, if you want something enough: you find a way.
I doubt there is a man (or woman) alive who has not have a serious crush on someone they thought totally out of their league but believe me: I managed to capture (temporarily) not one but two of my personal unicorns and it was worth it. Furthermore, if I can manage this insane feat then literally anyone can. I promise you now, I am being 100% genuine- when I was in my 20s I had literally zero self confidence. The trick of it is to pretend you have confidence. Women, in particular, seem attracted to confidence.
Your first step is to ditch any notion that you can't have what you want: you can have it, you begin to dress and live in a way that helps you foster a sense of confidence. Whatever it takes you to achieve that, you do. If working out in the gym works for you, do that. If a particular set of clothes or shoes or lucky cuff links works for you, do that. If a BMW M3 works for you, do that.
Don't look back. Abandon all doubt and reservation.