Hot people will make you unhappy

it's not like people can't be both attractive and nice...

it's not like people can't be both attractive and nice...

^^

That's the ideal I'm trying to encourage so if this was meant sarcastically woe to you.

Trying to get with someone just because they are hot or pretty will make you unhappy .
This applies to both men and women.
You will constantly feel unworthy and jealous and like the other person can do better.

Think about it for a moment. Let's say that really hot guy does like you and you get with him, maybe you have some great sex and things go ok for a few weeks. And then he turns out to be a **** because you never actually took the time to get to know him.

How happy will he have made you then? We all know looks are important but we need to consider our partners more carefully. The short term pursuit of happiness is not worth the long term pursuit of recovery.

I've been rejected a lot of times but just come out a long relationship with someone better looking than me, we just weren't compatible anymore. That's what this is. Don't beat yourself up chasing beauty when the dream isn't an ideal.

If you don't think you can be happy with someone who is hot that says more about you and your own self-worth than it does "hot people".

I don't get into a relationship with someone and think "they're too good for me". I've dated a variety of people - from the rich and famous to handymen and NEETs. For context I'm a navy brat with a complex career history. But I've enough self-confidence to not let who I'm dating change me or make me question my worth. When those relationships ended it was for the best not due to jealousy or insecurity.

Trying to get with someone just because they are hot or pretty will make you unhappy .
This applies to both men and women.
You will constantly feel unworthy and jealous and like the other person can do better.

Think about it for a moment. Let's say that really hot guy does like you and you get with him, maybe you have some great sex and things go ok for a few weeks. And then he turns out to be a **** because you never actually took the time to get to know him.

How happy will he have made you then? We all know looks are important but we need to consider our partners more carefully. The short term pursuit of happiness is not worth the long term pursuit of recovery.

Trying to get with someone just because they are hot or pretty will make you unhappy .
This applies to both men and women.
You will constantly feel unworthy and jealous and like the other person can do better.

Think about it for a moment. Let's say that really hot guy does like you and you get with him, maybe you have some great sex and things go ok for a few weeks. And then he turns out to be a **** because you never actually took the time to get to know him.

How happy will he have made you then? We all know looks are important but we need to consider our partners more carefully. The short term pursuit of happiness is not worth the long term pursuit of recovery.

this is very sensible advice. in a few years the looks begin to fade; the bloom is off the rose. the plump moist fruit shrivels to a desiccated prune.

Mind you, you can get a fair bit of mileage out of good looks over a 15 year period and it's a bit longer still before you become a desiccated prune

When I was in my 20s all my boyfriends used to look like famous actors/ pop stars. These included actor John Duttine, Phil Oakey, cross between Simon le Bon and Sting, Jason Donovan... and I was chatted up by Phil Lynott of Thin lizzy. They were gorgeous and everyone was jealous of me. they were also madly in love..with their mirrors. they thought they could just treat me how they liked. It always ended up in tears and they were unfaithful to me. There was a nice guy who liked me. He was average looking and was called Geoff Nutter. He wore socks under Jesus sandals when the rest of us were wearing black felt pixie boots. And I didn't fancy being Mrs Nutter. But he was interesting, caring, a good listener, sweet and adored me. I often regret going out with the God of the French department (the Simon le bon/Sting one) instead of Geoff. So now I am alone and he is probably happy with someone else. Heed my words and choose wisely.

I guess not, if you play you cards right and snare that dream partner at just the right moment..