Is he just really busy or not interested?

It sounds like you should just leave it - he would put more effort in if interested.

Reply 2

londonmyst

19

Move on.
He's not interested.

Reply 3

OP

yeah... the thing is, he's a labourer, and told me he finishes work "even later when it rains". Then the other week he was free at 5, so I said "have you already finished?" and he said, "yeah I finished early because it was raining." So just contradictory. I said would he be up for meeting up but he said he didn't feel well, so I didn't push it.

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous

yeah... the thing is, he's a labourer, and told me he finishes work "even later when it rains". Then the other week he was free at 5, so I said "have you already finished?" and he said, "yeah I finished early because it was raining." So just contradictory. I said would he be up for meeting up but he said he didn't feel well, so I didn't push it.

Honestly stop wasting your time. There will be plenty of more opportunities out there.

Reply 5

OP

It's annoying because he is messaging me every day, and he did find this one free evening. Don't know why he's still messaging me with me etc. if he's not interested, or why he hasn't just told me he doesn't want to meet?

Reply 6

Grapple

16

Original post by Anonymous

It's annoying because he is messaging me every day, and he did find this one free evening. Don't know why he's still messaging me with me etc. if he's not interested, or why he hasn't just told me he doesn't want to meet?

messaging is easier than meeting up. virtually no effort required. meeting up is effort. he doesnt want to put effort into seeing you bc he doesnt see it as worth it. move on, if he was serious he would meet up with you at least once.

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous

It's annoying because he is messaging me every day, and he did find this one free evening. Don't know why he's still messaging me with me etc. if he's not interested, or why he hasn't just told me he doesn't want to meet?

The simple truth is it is convenient to have you as an option there just in case. He definitely is not interested in a a serious relationship with you so you would do well to stop trying to convince yourself otherwise

Reply 8

Grapple

16

Original post by XavierMyshkin

The simple truth is it is convenient to have you as an option there just in case. He definitely is not interested in a a serious relationship with you so you would do well to stop trying to convince yourself otherwise

i agree, it sounds a bit like he's playing the numbers game where he's trying to know his other options better before getting more serious with OP

Reply 9

El Salvador

21

"wasn't ready" means not interested

Reply 10

Original post by Mimi9335

i agree, it sounds a bit like he's playing the numbers game where he's trying to know his other options better before getting more serious with OP

or just have OP as a potential side if and when he is bothered with absolutely no intention of getting serious. I would think that would be more likely personally.

Reply 11

OP

Thanks for the wake-up call. The option thing makes sense; I was probably "better than nothing" and would be there just in case. Least I know now I guess and can leave it.

Reply 12

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks for the wake-up call. The option thing makes sense; I was probably "better than nothing" and would be there just in case. Least I know now I guess and can leave it.

Good luck - just forget about him :smile:

Reply 13

OP

thanks, hopefully I will. I deserve better than to be kept on the back burner.

Reply 14