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could you be in a relationship with someone who has a high libido?

my partner has a really high libido and constantly wants to have sex or do something intimate. my sex drive is fairly high but it’s a struggle to keep up with him haha.

i asked him whether we could slow down and not have to do it so much but he says he can’t help it.

i love him and want to be with him but the whole high libido thing is draining me, emotionally and physically.

sometimes I just want to watch a film, not do anything?

do you think the relationship can still work if one of us has a higher libido?
Reply 1
Are you the same person who asked about the low libido?
Original post by gtty123
Are you the same person who asked about the low libido?

im sure she doesn't have two boyfriends , yeah one with a low one and one with a high one - can't say much i didn't know what she was talking about until I read her paragraphs 😂😂😂.
Reply 3
Original post by gracieee16
im sure she doesn't have two boyfriends , yeah one with a low one and one with a high one - can't say much i didn't know what she was talking about until I read her paragraphs 😂😂😂.

Potentially. But I'm pretty certain OP is the same. Literally, I'd say, 2 days ago I read a thread to do with low libido.
Reply 4
Original post by gtty123
Are you the same person who asked about the low libido?


That’s not me. This is the first post I have ever made about my partner.
Original post by gtty123
Potentially. But I'm pretty certain OP is the same. Literally, I'd say, 2 days ago I read a thread to do with low libido.

ohhh, lmao. i don't think so
Reply 6
Original post by gracieee16
ohhh, lmao. i don't think so


It’s not me. Why are you asking if it’s me? Can you just give some advice please lol
No. Absolutely not. That’s too much and tiring. I prefer asexuals
Reply 8
Libido mismatch seems to rear its ugly head in most longer term relationships. I guess it’s about finding a compromise
Original post by Anonymous
It’s not me. Why are you asking if it’s me? Can you just give some advice please lol

imo, i would not like it bc id be tired asf but like i am a virgin so i can't really comment but i just know i wouldn't like to have it all the time, sometimes my sex drive is high sometimes it's soooo low, so nah. if you don't like it, tell him and if he doesn't listen then that's his problem and you should leave him :smile: x

Do you agree @gtty123 ?
Original post by Moonlight rain
No. Absolutely not. That’s too much and tiring. I prefer asexuals


Fair enough haha

Original post by Zarek
Libido mismatch seems to rear its ugly head in most longer term relationships. I guess it’s about finding a compromise


Yeah we are slowly finding a compromise but I just feel bad for not doing it sometimes haha

Original post by gracieee16
imo, i would not like it bc id be tired asf but like i am a virgin so i can't really comment but i just know i wouldn't like to have it all the time, sometimes my sex drive is high sometimes it's soooo low, so nah. if you don't like it, tell him and if he doesn't listen then that's his problem and you should leave him :smile: x

Do you agree @gtty123 ?


fair enough haha.
Original post by Anonymous
That’s not me. This is the first post I have ever made about my partner.

Fair enough lol. This is what I was referring to btw:
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=92960404&highlight=Low%20libido

Original post by gracieee16
imo, i would not like it bc id be tired asf but like i am a virgin so i can't really comment but i just know i wouldn't like to have it all the time, sometimes my sex drive is high sometimes it's soooo low, so nah. if you don't like it, tell him and if he doesn't listen then that's his problem and you should leave him :smile: x

Do you agree @gtty123 ?

That's fine, yes.
At this moment in time, yes, absolutely lmao. But realistically if you have very varying libidos and can't communicate/compromise over it, that's a sign of sexual incompatibility and could cause issues in the long run.
It's really common for guys to have high libidos so you're not the only person in that situation. No way you need to break up you just got to be more open about it and come to some sort of compromise. If he doesnt want to compromise then hes not worth ur time
Original post by Benji8492
It's really common for guys to have high libidos so you're not the only person in that situation. No way you need to break up you just got to be more open about it and come to some sort of compromise. If he doesnt want to compromise then hes not worth ur time


Oh yeah i definitely won’t break up with him haha
Original post by Ramipril
At this moment in time, yes, absolutely lmao. But realistically if you have very varying libidos and can't communicate/compromise over it, that's a sign of sexual incompatibility and could cause issues in the long run.


We don’t really have that different libidos like we both have a high sex drive. I think sometimes I just prefer a chill evening whereas he would rather be in the bedroom lol but we definitely compromise so we goooood
If you went to a GP and told them your sex drive was too high/you were getting too aroused/had a porn addiction what do you think they would say?

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