how to deal with this type of guy?

He sent 17 messages before you responded? Unless that is an exaggeration, then there isn't a way to salvage a friendship from this situation right now. He's in too deep to be just friends. For his sake you're better off making clear you aren't interested and reducing contact.

Have you bought this up to him in discussion? I feel like your silence is egging him on..

i try and reply in short answers, and then gi offline ASAP, but he normally comes online, sends me 4 or 5 messages, sometimes more, then i'll try and stay off my phone to avoid texting him. i don't want to lead him on, but ignoring him would be really bad.

17? I think he wants you

mhm, last year he told me he liked me, and i rejected him. he kept persistently talking to me, so i decided to give him a chance at being friends. he's a nice guy, and i want to be friends but, multiple other friends have suggested he's into me. idk what to do without hurting him. another problem, is he chose 9 out of 10 of the same gcses as me, so i'll most likely see him in at least some of those classes

yeah, i guess. he also interrupts my conversations a lot, so often if i see him approaching, i have to keep talking as much as possible so he cant jump in. doesn't stop him from doing it anyway, and he also guilt trips me a bit. we were drawing self portraits in art, he kept telling me "omg i'm so ugly", then i said" its fine" , and he said "omg but u look so much better than me and you're a great artist", i didn't know how to respond :'( i feel bad for the guy but idk how to sort the situation

yeah ok, thank you! it's just kind of hard to completely cut him off, he's in every single one of my classes, sits beside me in like 4 classes, is part of my friend group, and is extremely clingy. i'll try and talk to him about it, but i did that last year, and he still kept chatting. :/

yeah, i guess. he also interrupts my conversations a lot, so often if i see him approaching, i have to keep talking as much as possible so he cant jump in. doesn't stop him from doing it anyway, and he also guilt trips me a bit. we were drawing self portraits in art, he kept telling me "omg i'm so ugly", then i said" its fine" , and he said "omg but u look so much better than me and you're a great artist", i didn't know how to respond :'( i feel bad for the guy but idk how to sort the situation

yeah ok, thank you! it's just kind of hard to completely cut him off, he's in every single one of my classes, sits beside me in like 4 classes, is part of my friend group, and is extremely clingy. i'll try and talk to him about it, but i did that last year, and he still kept chatting. :/

What exactly did you tell him last year? I know it might feel awkward having to see someone you’re not comfortable with everyday, trust me I know that feeling very well but sometimes you have to do these things even if it feels very uncomfortable at first.

Damn, boy was fishing. I'm glad you didn't cave and compliment him.


He can't be "just friends" with you. Not right now. Maybe after the summer holidays, if you'll still be in the same classes then, but he's too emotionally attached as things currently are. You don't need to talk to everyone in your class/friend group - be civil/polite, but don't invite or encourage conversation.

If you're looking for a way to phrase it: "We can't be friends while you still have feelings for me."

so last year he told me i like you, wanna go out? and i said no sorry i'm not into you, nor mature enough to date someone ( i was 12 at that point, it was early second year), and he said ok. it was awkward for around a month, and then he started texting my friend, asking her out too. he started talking to me about my friend, i said i'm not going to talk about her behind her back, and then he started tryna talk about his hobbies and stuff. i told him i wasn't into that kind of stuff, but he just keeps telling me about his hobbies. i didn't listen, and then he made friends with some of my friends, so we were in a group setting together. he just kept persisting, and no matter how hard i tried to let him down gently, he still talked to me.

Also since you’ve told him before, I wouldn’t care too much about being polite cause he obviously doesn’t seem to respect your boundaries so you don’t owe him your politeness. Just tell him how it is and be blunt. He’s obviously taking advantage of your kindness whether he is conscious of that or not. Good luck.