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Can you ever un-know something?

Like you had a devastating diagnosis and there is nothing you can do about it? I just wish I could forget it.

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well you may have to dill with it even though you might not like it .....i am sorry for waht ever your news is
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Original post by tater tot
well you may have to dill with it even though you might not like it .....i am sorry for waht ever your news is

It won't kill me but I'll never see myself the same again.
You either forget or you get dementia or Alzheimer’s I’m afraid. Also, unknowing something could be harmful or dangerous if the not knowing causes you to do or not do something which is going to aggravate the condition or situation. It’s far more beneficial to have the knowledge and find healthy ways to cope with and manage whatever it is.
Original post by Anonymous
Like you had a devastating diagnosis and there is nothing you can do about it? I just wish I could forget it.


I dont think u can completely eradicate something from your brain, however eventually with time there will be days u may forget or remember. But I think as time passes there will be more days of you forgetting. Try to distract yourself everyday. Or as the comment above me said, transform that diagnosis into something u have accepted or beneficial, because whatever it is people can change and will grow each day into different people.
Original post by Anonymous
Like you had a devastating diagnosis and there is nothing you can do about it? I just wish I could forget it.

Try not to think about it thinking of it will only get the better of you with those what if thoughts, over whelming thoughts and thinking of the negative. I do apologise and do wish there’s a way of finding something that’ll resolve it although that’s the way forwards. And you can also thinking about the pros of how you can avoid it and make matters easier for you
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Original post by Sorcerer of Old
You either forget or you get dementia or Alzheimer’s I’m afraid. Also, unknowing something could be harmful or dangerous if the not knowing causes you to do or not do something which is going to aggravate the condition or situation. It’s far more beneficial to have the knowledge and find healthy ways to cope with and manage whatever it is.

What about banging my head on the wall, that might cause dementia or something? My memory is trash compared to before but certain things like especially the traumatic things and life changing diagnoses is what sticks in my head.
Original post by Anonymous
What about banging my head on the wall, that might cause dementia or something? My memory is trash compared to before but certain things like especially the traumatic things and life changing diagnoses is what sticks in my head.

Don’t plagiarise Dobby please. It isn’t helpful and will just make your health issues worse.
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Original post by Sorcerer of Old
Don’t plagiarise Dobby please. It isn’t helpful and will just make your health issues worse.

I don't even know who or what Dobby is but okay.
Reply 9
Original post by Sorcerer of Old
You either forget or you get dementia or Alzheimer’s I’m afraid. Also, unknowing something could be harmful or dangerous if the not knowing causes you to do or not do something which is going to aggravate the condition or situation. It’s far more beneficial to have the knowledge and find healthy ways to cope with and manage whatever it is.

I don't even know why I was told, like I don't want answers. I just want to accept that I am the way I am. Why don't doctors ask you if you want to know before telling you? I didn't need to know because it's not life threatening.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't even know why I was told, like I don't want answers. I just want to accept that I am the way I am. Why don't doctors ask you if you want to know before telling you? I didn't need to know because it's not life threatening.

if that's the case then there may be a possibility it is there job to tell you as it may be important or this indifferent doctor doesn't know how to do his job.
Original post by ekiraiai
if that's the case then there may be a possibility it is there job to tell you as it may be important or this indifferent doctor doesn't know how to do his job.

They were a mental health nurse who doesn't specialise in genetics. She said a paediatrician diagnosed me with it and insulted me saying "do you think it's normal to be your height and weight at your age?" I always saw myself as normal as I know many people my age my height and weight. I don't even know how a paediatrician would "diagnose" me when they didn't even see me, the therapist was pestering me about not eating more than one meal a day. I didn't believe the diagnosis as she wasn't qualified but after reading up on it I found I did have it and got genetic testing after 5 years and it came back positive. The nurse tested me for anorexia and when I was 17 I circled 0 on a questionnaire for everything but when I was 18/19 based on my speech found I did also have anorexia. The mental health nurse I saw when I was 17 basically blamed me on my psych report saying won't increase my intake and wrote my height, weight and BMI (should have started a fight with her then and refused to be measured), then wrote helps herself to food throughout the day. My genetic condition is a big diagnoses so reacting "extremely" is actually normal.
Original post by ekiraiai
if that's the case then there may be a possibility it is there job to tell you as it may be important or this indifferent doctor doesn't know how to do his job.

She's also judgemental as she wrote "small in build and stature" the first time she saw me. Apparently being racist and not respecting religious beliefs (there are examples of this) and telling me I have a genetic disorder is "helping" me. She says "she's not there to harass me, she's there to help me" well it is harassment as I was forced to go under a mental health team. Did I go to her to be told I am disabled?
Original post by Anonymous
She's also judgemental as she wrote "small in build and stature" the first time she saw me. Apparently being racist and not respecting religious beliefs (there are examples of this) and telling me I have a genetic disorder is "helping" me. She says "she's not there to harass me, she's there to help me" well it is harassment as I was forced to go under a mental health team. Did I go to her to be told I am disabled?

FIND A NEW DOCTOR.
that is it
Original post by Anonymous
FIND A NEW DOCTOR.
that is it

I don't want to see any mental health therapist, all of them are judgemental and racist. They say they aren't but they are. I tried other people.

The point is I can't un-know this condition now can I?
Original post by ekiraiai
if that's the case then there may be a possibility it is there job to tell you as it may be important or this indifferent doctor doesn't know how to do his job.

At least I can use my genetic condition to explain my low weight and I have to be lower in weight because of it. At least I can never be fat and I can use my genetic condition as an excuse with my eating disorder therapists to not put on weight.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't even know why I was told, like I don't want answers. I just want to accept that I am the way I am. Why don't doctors ask you if you want to know before telling you? I didn't need to know because it's not life threatening.

What do you mean? How can a doctor just not tell you..? It’s their job, they have a responsibility to tell you, and just because something isn’t terminal or life threatening, doesn’t mean it can’t have devastating effects on your life if ignored and left untreated.
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Original post by Anonymous
At least I can use my genetic condition to explain my low weight and I have to be lower in weight because of it. At least I can never be fat and I can use my genetic condition as an excuse with my eating disorder therapists to not put on weight.

Wait, are you the same person that’s on this site who says they love their genetic disorder because at least they stay thin due to it??
(edited 1 month ago)
Original post by Sorcerer of Old
What do you mean? How can a doctor just not tell you..? It’s their job, they have a responsibility to tell you, and just because something isn’t terminal or life threatening, doesn’t mean it can’t have devastating effects on your life if ignored and left untreated.

It is a condition I will live with forever.
Original post by Sorcerer of Old
Wait, are you the same person that’s on this site who says they love their genetic disorder because at least they stay thin due to it??

Yes

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