When I was 15 I told my parents that I wanted to study humanities because I liked languages and geography. But my parents wanted me to study engineering or computer science. I did very poorly in my 11th and 12th grades studying science/maths which I was very bad at. I was enrolled in a private university to study computer science. I didn't like it at all and dropped out. I told my family that I would study pure science instead. But yet again, the following year I was coerced into studying computer science.
I spent four years just trying to pass some exams and graduated with a mediocre GPA. I never did any of the things that young people tend to do, like dating, drinking, etc. I never even left the house without my grandmother or my parents chaperoning me.
I currently work at an IT job as a backend developer, where I struggle to communicate with my colleagues who speak a different language from me. It's very frustrating and the hours are very long, usually 10 AM to 7 PM. I earn a good salary but I feel like my job has sucked out all the joy from my life,
I really wanted to be a linguist, so in 2021 I tried to apply for a PhD in computational linguistics. For this, I had to clear an aptitude test (mostly maths and logical reasoning) that had nothing to do with computational linguistics. I didn't clear the exam.
Recently I applied to some American and British universities to study computational linguistics. Living in a Western country is ridiculously expensive for us, so I have to take a massive loan that I will spend the next five or six years trying to pay off. I like to think that I will be able to work in something related to languages after this, but in all likelihood, my future job will be like any other IT job.
I feel like nothing good has happened in my life. I know I am too old to blame my parents. But will things ever get better? At this point I want to achieve two things: I want to work in a job related to languages, and I want to be in a romantic relationship. I have never been in a relationship in my entire life and my parents are telling me they will find an arranged marriage for me when I am 30.