In september I'm starting uni in liverpool and I'll be staying in student accommodation in flats. but i'm really really starting to wonder if I've done the right thing. (I've got my grades and on a gap year btw)I've been offered my accommodation but I am panicking over whether or not I should accept it or even go at all.
The problem is I'm incredibly shy. Beyond just being shy, it's a situation where I have no friends AT ALL and sturggle to make conversations with more than one person at a time. If it's a group, I just can't really speak. It feels as if my words won't come out well or clear, will be very mumbled and too quiet and I'd rather spare myself the embarassment. I also feel very anxious when around people socialising , when I am for example stuck in a small space, I feel as if everyone can see my feelings and anxiety being broadcasted and it's genuinely an awful feeling to be seen as so timid and weak.
In general this has been the case for many years, having no friends and desperately wanting some and a social life. However just over a year ago all that changed and I actually decided that I didn't want a social life. i just wanted to be alone all the time, and felt as if socialising was just stressful in itself, even if the anxiety were to go completely. since I started to think like that I have still been like that since . I think what made me like this was when I challenged myself too hard and just lost energy and motivation, i dunno.
So I'm at uni in september in halls. How do I actually cope?! I mean, I don't feel comfortable dancing or going to clubs and it just feels like a living hell and even if I had no anxiety, it feels like the anti-social side would put me off too. I don't particularly want to sit around and feel as if I have to socialise with people in my flats,at least not for hours on end. If I need something from the kitchen then I wouldn't have a problem talking (or I'd try my best) but apart from that I don't really want to befriend anyone! but if people are nagging me too go places or join them how can i sort of get the message across that I don't actually have anything against them personally, I just don't want to socialise! I just wanna be on my own!
Also been reading a few other posts here about loud music blasting out till 3 in the morning on a week day. Sounds like hell! is there anyway you can make a complaint about this and get the property managers to stop them? I must sound like a complete bore I guess I am but if I'm paying so much I should have the right to at least not be disturbed so early in the morning when sleeping! Btw I'll accept there'll be noise on Friday and Sat, I know I'd have to just cope with that.
so preferably if anyone has been to student accommodation in flats and experienced it, what do you reckon?
thanks