Guy meets Girl, falls in love, girl doesnt love guy ...

She's basically friendzoned you... move on to the next chick

She's not going to change her mind, bro.

A moment of silence... etc

So I met this girl on my course, who i got to know and we got along well. Eventually towards the end of the year I gather up the courage to tell her I like her. However she said she didnt feel the same way. She did this in the nicest possible way and we had a really long chat and despite saying no guy has ever told her they like her and done it in this way (alot of planning went into how to tell her :/) she said she wasnt ready at this point in her life (shes never had a bf before). She said I was the closest guy to her and She was very concerened about losing me as a friend and messaged my friend voicing the same concern. I told her that Id still be there as a friend.. But its hard because i think about her alot. Do you think that I can eventually woo her down ? Im an average looking guy, but like to think i have a likeable personality! Get along with everyone and very socially confident! I make her laugh so humour is there, and there's a connection! albeit that of a friend.

Basically is this a lost cause?

Thanks

Maybe she's just not into you..

Maybe it's because she finds lads 6'4 and ginger her type and you're just not her type.

This reminds me of a friend I had in college: He was smart, really caring and a really good friend but I never saw him that way. He was slob with his appearance, his hair was the same way as his mum and he would do anything to get out of anything like work. He was a good person to go to for hugs and a late night conversation. We would regularly hang out, go get food and we were really good friends. I knew he liked me like that because A) He told everyone B) he would make comments like 'If you didn't go for pretty boys who knew they were pretty you wouldn't end up getting hurt, take someone like me who knows how to treat a girl but nobody looks in my direction'.

He's now engaged at university and i'm forever alone. The good guy does end up on top

LOL, a perfect example of the sugar coated "Oh you're not for me line" being nothing more than animalistic, materliastic bias towards looks.

I'd be my bank if a 'hot' guy she'd never met or knew for an hour asked her out, the lady i am quoting now would say yes.

It's just natural selection. It's the bane of my life, and the bane of the life of most guys.

I would love a girl to be bluntly honest. Just tell me what's wrong with me. NO BS. Tell me where i stand.

Everyone takes looks into account to an extent, there's no need to get so mardy about it, would you go out with a girl you felt no physical attraction towards? Even in terms of personality, what you look for in a friend isn't neccessarily the same as what you look for in a partner. Confidence is vital for getting girlfriends, for example, less so for friends.

So? If a hot girl randomly asked you out, what would you say?

Some girls just won't find you physically attractive, that's true for all of us, get over it.

The thing that bugs me is these guys always say "I'm such an amazing friend", yet they aren't happy just being friends. I'm great friends with an attractive girl, and guess what? I'm not actually playing a long game which ends in me ****ing her! I actually enjoy the friendship in its own right.

So I met this girl on my course, who i got to know and we got along well. Eventually towards the end of the year I gather up the courage to tell her I like her. However she said she didnt feel the same way. She did this in the nicest possible way and we had a really long chat and despite saying no guy has ever told her they like her and done it in this way (alot of planning went into how to tell her :/) she said she wasnt ready at this point in her life (shes never had a bf before). She said I was the closest guy to her and She was very concerened about losing me as a friend and messaged my friend voicing the same concern. I told her that Id still be there as a friend.. But its hard because i think about her alot. Do you think that I can eventually woo her down ? Im an average looking guy, but like to think i have a likeable personality! Get along with everyone and very socially confident! I make her laugh so humour is there, and there's a connection! albeit that of a friend.

Basically is this a lost cause?

Thanks

When did i say it was wrong?

I want human beings to hilight this animalistic and materialistic trait, and just be blunt and honest, instead of sugar coating it.

Your language?

That isn't what materialistic means, that would mean someone going for money or gifts. Or animalistic, that's got more sexual connertations.

You say that, but if you asked a girl out and she said "no, because you're ugly, have poor dress sense and smell bad", you'd probably get upset.

She's not going to change her mind, bro.

A moment of silence... etc

There are not always two extremes of saying things. And judging on looks is extremely materialistic. Most guys look after themselves. Girls reject based on height, eye colour, nose shape - things inherently in a guys genetic. Guys do likewise to girls. That's much worse than rejecting for money. Money can be acquired, looks and genetics can't. So you stand no chance.

And a girl can just say "You're not my type sorry"

I.E you're ugly