Hi! I'm 21 and a guy. Basically, i'm fed up with people putting me down all the time... then those people wonder why i'm shy.
My sister is 18. I try and get on with her, yet she clearly hates me. I lent her a lot of money so she could buy a car. She's paid it all back now, but she's just always, and was back then when she had my money, vile. I'll be nice, I'll help her etc, and yet when her friends are around her, or she's in a mood, it'll be "f**k off you weirdo" and she'll say anything she can to me to hurt my feelings. I'm looking for a job in the area I'd like, I actually have an interview next week, and i'm currently in retail. She said "you've got a crap job, crap life, drop dead".
People outside of my family say i'm good looking. They do in work yet i've NEVER had a girlfriend. My family put me down about the way I look and I just feel really unconfident. Like about a year ago, I lost a bit of weight. They were commenting how skinny I looked. Then I put on a bit, and I got called fat. My hair gets longer... they say it's scruffy, I get it cut, they comment how short it is. I get my legs out on holiday... they'll laugh they're hairy. I have hairy legs. I don't need to be told that. I feel worried about it because I know a lot of girls don't like hair.
Yesterday I went to the beach with friends. It was just so nice to sit there, relax, breath in the nice sea air, get a bit of a tan - because my family say how "white" i am... laugh about with my mates, take some nice photos, exchange a smile with a rather attractive girl my age in the chippy haha.
It was just so nice to be away from my family. As horrible as that sounds, but I felt quite confident and happy there. It was miles away too.
Even at work I get put down a bit. I've never been confident and always ask what to do to make sure i'm doing a task right. One of the managers said "you always ask all the time!", so on this one thing, I thought i'd feel confident and get on with something. Suddenly, 2 managers come over and tell me off because apparently there's a new way of doing that thing... I was never told.
So my question... how can I be more confident? I need to stop being so shy and fight back at what people say. In secondary school, there was 2 boys who always picked on me. I had enough one day so when he was sat on a small short wall, I pulled him by his bag, and he fell off. He got laughed at. I felt so cruel doing that and it just wasn't me. He never said anything to me ever again, but it didn't feel right doing that.