My girl friend says she doesn't want to have sex when we meet up in 9 days??

This kind of thread makes me so angry. It's like everyone has taken a stupid pill.

If she's getting infections - then don't do it. Do something else. She hasn't got a UTI in her mouth has she? No. Problem solved.

This kind of thread makes me so angry. It's like everyone has taken a stupid pill.

If she's getting infections - then don't do it. Do something else. She hasn't got a UTI in her mouth has she? No. Problem solved.

I'd be really, REALLY, gratefully if you took your time to be considerate. Calling people stupid because they aren't doing a Phd in gynaecology is absurd.

Are you with her for the sex only? I'm assuming not.
She clearly likes sleeping with you, but genuinely doesn't want to risk having a UTI on holiday in France. That is completely reasonable.
You can have sex again later. The fact she is stressed about it knowing there's a big trip coming up will only make her immune system weaker and her more likely to get a UTI even with preventative precautions and cranberry juice. So let her be man, don't pressure her or get annoyed. It will help reduce her stress levels and chances of it being a continuing problem if you give her a chance to not worry about it for now.

As someone in a long distance relationship, I think sex when you meet up is pretty important, I'd be upset if I didn't feel like she was that bothered about doing it. I guess some guys love blowjobs, but I don't think anything really compares to full sex.

Nothing really too personal actually ... no, she keeps telling me over, and over, and over about how much she loves having sex with me (even when the conversation is completely different) ... she has orgasmed at least 3 times in our 3 month relationship ... so I doubt it has anything to do with her enjoying it or not. Plus she told me "If I didn't get UTIs so often I'd have sex with you every day "

I'm in an LDR as well and it is extremely frustrating. But I've also had UTIs, and if I were prone to them I would have exactly the same attitude in this girl's position. Seriously - they are awful.

I'm in an LDR as well and it is extremely frustrating. But I've also had UTIs, and if I were prone to them I would have exactly the same attitude in this girl's position. Seriously - they are awful.

Sounds pretty good, I think if a girl is cumming most times you do it they will be more up for sex.

I dunno if this is generally true, but in my experience girls tend to get utis when they're more inexperienced, as the vagina isn't used to the irritation sex can cause. Maybe if you just persevere a bit they'll stop occuring?

Everyone else thinking they're really smart by pointing out that the urethra is a different hole, I think you should probably read up on UTIs.

Oh I'm sorry - you need to be a gynaecologist to work out that you can have sex with other orifices?

We've had sex many times before, and each time she complains about a UTI afterwards.

Some women do get UTIs constantly and sex can cause them to happen more frequently, she doesn't want to be in pain while she is trying to enjoy a holiday in France. If you can't understand that then that is your problem.

I can certainly vouch for the fact some women do get UTIs every time or at least a lot of the time after sex. It happens to me every so often but used to happen pretty much constantly when me and my partner first started having sex.

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And what do you do to "control" them?

I wash after sex and wear loose jammie bottoms rather than pants and trousers. I done that when I got them constantly but it didn't prevent them as much as it does now. Maybe my body has just got used to the infections.

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Nothing really too personal actually ... no, she keeps telling me over, and over, and over about how much she loves having sex with me (even when the conversation is completely different) ... she has orgasmed at least 3 times in our 3 month relationship ... so I doubt it has anything to do with her enjoying it or not. Plus she told me "If I didn't get UTIs so often I'd have sex with you every day "

Sounds like she is very enthusiastic (though I'd have hoped you'd have made her orgasm more regularly than that, it's really not hard in my experience).

My girlfriend also suffers from frequent UTIs which tend to come in flurries (I don't think particularly due to sex). Cranberry juice seems to work for her and obviously going for a piss after sex is essential.

But I think your girlfriend really is just scared of getting a UTI on the first day and ruining her whole holiday. Maybe suggest sex on the last day, or just do other stuff: keep the mood positive and take this as a golden ticket to blowjob city. They say the French invented it...