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I want to cheat on my boyfriend again

Me and my bf have been dating since september! I have just come out of a really depressing relationship so this one is a bit of a rebound tbh.
Anyway we are both at the same halls so I was getting frustrated as he was always there. He is very clingy and jealous. He made me delete some facebook contacts of some of my guy friends because he felt insecure. I feel like I have no friends left because I simply don't have time for them as he is always here. In my room, kitchen, or generally anywhere I am!!! I think this may be because I hooked up with anyother guy the first week we were dating. Let me repeat, dating! Not yet in a relationship so I refused to call it cheating as we were not exclusive. I think he understands that but is a bit worried.

Anyway now that I'm home for xmas break I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party (i won't go into detail). This was my old friend, a german guy (I'm originally from germany), so we have so much in common but since he lives here and I spend my time at uni, it won't work out.

And I want to do it again. I don't know why though. To get back at my bf? Maybe. Or maybe to feel free. But I don't know if what I will gain by cheating will benefit me and will be worth all the trouble. I want my bf to understand that keeping me on a leash won't do anything. He needs to let me live like a normal person, so if I cheat I can prove that him guarding me won't do any good, there is always a way. I don't want to break his heart too much.

Reply 1

Juichiro

18

Original post by Allaboutthatbass

Me and my bf have been dating since september! I have just come out of a really depressing relationship so this one is a bit of a rebound tbh.
Anyway we are both at the same halls so I was getting frustrated as he was always there. He is very clingy and jealous. He made me delete some facebook contacts of some of my guy friends because he felt insecure. I feel like I have no friends left because I simply don't have time for them as he is always here. In my room, kitchen, or generally anywhere I am!!! I think this may be because I hooked up with anyother guy the first week we were dating. Let me repeat, dating! Not yet in a relationship so I refused to call it cheating as we were not exclusive. I think he understands that but is a bit worried.

Anyway now that I'm home for xmas break I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party (i won't go into detail). This was my old friend, a german guy (I'm originally from germany), so we have so much in common but since he lives here and I spend my time at uni, it won't work out.

And I want to do it again. I don't know why though. To get back at my bf? Maybe. Or maybe to feel free. But I don't know if what I will gain by cheating will benefit me and will be worth all the trouble. I want my bf to understand that keeping me on a leash won't do anything. He needs to let me live like a normal person, so if I cheat I can prove that him guarding me won't do any good, there is always a way. I don't want to break his heart too much.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Reply 2

username47781

20

Original post by Allaboutthatbass

Me and my bf have been dating since september! I have just come out of a really depressing relationship so this one is a bit of a rebound tbh.
Anyway we are both at the same halls so I was getting frustrated as he was always there. He is very clingy and jealous. He made me delete some facebook contacts of some of my guy friends because he felt insecure. I feel like I have no friends left because I simply don't have time for them as he is always here. In my room, kitchen, or generally anywhere I am!!! I think this may be because I hooked up with anyother guy the first week we were dating. Let me repeat, dating! Not yet in a relationship so I refused to call it cheating as we were not exclusive. I think he understands that but is a bit worried.

Anyway now that I'm home for xmas break I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party (i won't go into detail). This was my old friend, a german guy (I'm originally from germany), so we have so much in common but since he lives here and I spend my time at uni, it won't work out.

And I want to do it again. I don't know why though. To get back at my bf? Maybe. Or maybe to feel free. But I don't know if what I will gain by cheating will benefit me and will be worth all the trouble. I want my bf to understand that keeping me on a leash won't do anything. He needs to let me live like a normal person, so if I cheat I can prove that him guarding me won't do any good, there is always a way. I don't want to break his heart too much.

Why not just end it rather than cheating? if you are not happy in this relationship then is there much point staying in it just for the sake of it? Have you told him how unhappy you are at him being clingy and controlling. Believe me it isn't healthy if you have a partner like that.

Reply 3

Changing Skies

22

Honestly, you're best ending it. Clearly you feel no guilt, and if you're not happy in the relationship, you'll be doing both of you a favour. He was of course wrong in making you delete several contacts, but evidently his insecurity wasn't unreasonable.

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Reply 4

November_22nd

2

Original post by Allaboutthatbass

Me and my bf have been dating since september! I have just come out of a really depressing relationship so this one is a bit of a rebound tbh.
Anyway we are both at the same halls so I was getting frustrated as he was always there. He is very clingy and jealous. He made me delete some facebook contacts of some of my guy friends because he felt insecure. I feel like I have no friends left because I simply don't have time for them as he is always here. In my room, kitchen, or generally anywhere I am!!! I think this may be because I hooked up with anyother guy the first week we were dating. Let me repeat, dating! Not yet in a relationship so I refused to call it cheating as we were not exclusive. I think he understands that but is a bit worried.

Anyway now that I'm home for xmas break I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party (i won't go into detail). This was my old friend, a german guy (I'm originally from germany), so we have so much in common but since he lives here and I spend my time at uni, it won't work out.

And I want to do it again. I don't know why though. To get back at my bf? Maybe. Or maybe to feel free. But I don't know if what I will gain by cheating will benefit me and will be worth all the trouble. I want my bf to understand that keeping me on a leash won't do anything. He needs to let me live like a normal person, so if I cheat I can prove that him guarding me won't do any good, there is always a way. I don't want to break his heart too much.

Casual relationships are the best - no restrictions or rules. As far as I am concerned there are no rights or wrongs here. It's your life. Do what you have to do. Have fun!

Reply 5

XMaramena

22

Congratulations, you just won the 2014 Best Dick award!

So, Allaboutthatbass, what are you doing to do with your prize money?
:congrats:

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Reply 6

TorpidPhil

19

Original post by Changing Skies

He was of course wrong in making you delete several contacts, but evidently his insecurity wasn't unreasonable.

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Very apt.

Reply 7

awkwardshortguy

20

I am no Doctor Love, more Physician Hate, but to cheat on him would be childish. Why can't you just tell him he's being clingy? You might actually resolve something that way.

Reply 8

Lewierhodes

6

Either end the relationship or don't cheat and stay faithful and love the guy you have. Best advice for your situation is to end it though as you're clearly not going to work.

Reply 9

username221592

10

Original post by Allaboutthatbass

I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party

I think I just lost IQ points from reading this. How can someone's thought process be so broken that they thought that would solve anything.

Reply 10

udi_higa

cheating would just make the situation worse....if you dont love ur bf then i think ending it would be the best.... cheating just sounds wrong..... would affect three lives, urs, ur present bf and the other guy...
it would be better that ur present bf get hurt from the breakup than to be hurt by being cheated on.
if u dnt like it end it...
dnt cling on to it so hard when u dnt wanna .....

Reply 11

Zarek

21

End it, play the field a bit. Seems the obvious conclusion..

Reply 12

Tai Ga

18

****ing hell, just end it. He deserves so much better.

Reply 13

WeedCanKill

13

#womenlogic

For real though, what's to gain other than some meaningless sex and a bad reputation? Imagine if he told your family what you're like, destroying their image of you? Just talk to him and/or dump him.

Unless you actually get off on cheating on people, then you need to reassess your mental issues.

Reply 14

AmaDeductionist

It would be best if you just ended the relationship.

Reply 15

Rakas21

21

He is weak and you are disloyal.

Frankly I don't think either of you should be in a relationship.

Reply 16

taylorg292

8

Original post by Allaboutthatbass

Me and my bf have been dating since september! I have just come out of a really depressing relationship so this one is a bit of a rebound tbh.
Anyway we are both at the same halls so I was getting frustrated as he was always there. He is very clingy and jealous. He made me delete some facebook contacts of some of my guy friends because he felt insecure. I feel like I have no friends left because I simply don't have time for them as he is always here. In my room, kitchen, or generally anywhere I am!!! I think this may be because I hooked up with anyother guy the first week we were dating. Let me repeat, dating! Not yet in a relationship so I refused to call it cheating as we were not exclusive. I think he understands that but is a bit worried.

Anyway now that I'm home for xmas break I was upset that he treats me like this so I cheated on him at a sixth form reunion party (i won't go into detail). This was my old friend, a german guy (I'm originally from germany), so we have so much in common but since he lives here and I spend my time at uni, it won't work out.

And I want to do it again. I don't know why though. To get back at my bf? Maybe. Or maybe to feel free. But I don't know if what I will gain by cheating will benefit me and will be worth all the trouble. I want my bf to understand that keeping me on a leash won't do anything. He needs to let me live like a normal person, so if I cheat I can prove that him guarding me won't do any good, there is always a way. I don't want to break his heart too much.

It sounds like you're breaking his heart already by cheating on him to prove something, you should seriously break up with him because it doesn't sound like either of you are good for each other.