Why do guys NOT reply to messages

I normally do this.. it seems too harsh to just tell someone 'I don't like you.'
Especially as it might get awkward if they actually just think of you as a friend and are just messaging you constantly for no reason..

I don't straight ignore people, just reply bluntly or take a while to reply. Guys usually get the hint, I'd certainly get the hint if a guy did it to me. I'd rather that than them just saying 'I don't like you, go away.'

I normally do this.. it seems too harsh to just tell someone 'I don't like you.'
Especially as it might get awkward if they actually just think of you as a friend and are just messaging you constantly for no reason..

I don't straight ignore people, just reply bluntly or take a while to reply. Guys usually get the hint, I'd certainly get the hint if a guy did it to me. I'd rather that than them just saying 'I don't like you, go away.'

So that's why you take so long to reply to my messages on the Wonderful and Single Society Thread

I'm so sorry, I didn't want you to find out like this

Lol jk, on it now honey xo

Are there any exceptions to the rule, no reply= no interest in regards to guys?

I have heard people say if a guy does not reply to your message it is because he doesn't like you. Well ok fine, why don't guys just say it straight out 'I am not into you' instead of getting a girl's hope high.

Most guys have said it just seems cruel to say straight to a girl that they are not interested so they rather slowly cut off contact and hope the girl gets the hint that they are no longer interested. But surely a guy would see this is more cruel than actually saying I am not interested.

I texted a guy once who then didn't reply, I thought ok he did say to email him (we were living quite far from each other). So I thought ok then I will, he then replied back to my email and I wrote him back and he never replied. I felt like he did this just to hurt me, to get my hopes high and just crush them.

Maybe you should get yourself a mirror that's actually working, huh?

Each to their own, but I would prefer to be told straight up. Of course not harshly as 'I don't like you'. But a guy could put it more politely such as i don't know ' I like you as a friend, you are great but I feel we don't match' etc

it's because we're doing somthing manly,
whether it's playing fifa or comparing beards its manly
-or it could just be because we don't like you
-or it could be we are planning an answer to SOMONE we like so we don't **** it up, usually by conferring with friends via a group chat on what to say, especially if your friends egg you on to do so
-or finaly we might just be having abit of time to ourselves


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As people have already said, girls are just as bad! Sometimes to stop myself looking needy or the 'guy you text when bored' i'd leave it for 10-15min before replying. Oddly when texting the opposite sex, to start with, it tends to work better with slightly delayed replies.

But then i'd say theres no 'strategy' to texting. I've texted guys/girls who are quick repliers or wont reply for hours! Depends on the person. Some girl actually approached me over being slow to reply to her texts and such when actually I was working my part-time job most afternoons (during the summer). So people just get wrapped up in other things so dont let it go to your head; take it with a pinch of salt!

Well personally I have a real issue with text messages, particularly with potential dating partners in that it's such a lazy form of communication. Sure it's convenient and I suppose it's okay when you first meet someone, but in my mind it's not a sustainable habit and I would make it very clear to the guy that I find it unacceptable as a primary form of communication. Finding a compatible partner is partly about honestly communicating your needs and boundaries and if a guy is heavily reliant on text messaging, then that to me is a super red flag.

Also, I think some women need to spend less time concerned with what isn't said, and more on the actions of men. It's his actions that determines his interest level, not his words - although flattery is always welcomed! You don't need a guy to explicitly say "I'm not into you" to get the message; if a man is sporadically responding to your messages, not actively pursuing things, or worst not responding at all, then he is either half-arsed in his interest or simply not into you - both are unacceptable. I don't believe for one second that "perhaps he is too busy" -.if a guy is genuinely interested he would make time, not keep you in the dark and most importantly he will be actively consistent in his efforts. Once you have met the right guy, you won't even need to guess whether he is interested or not, his actions will speak volumes and that alone will give you the assurance you need.