I always feel like I'm making more of an effort with people than vice versa...

Thats why I stopped. I realised I didn't give a feck about what goes on in peoples lives. I always offer my help and support, however I've cut down a lot. I don't talk to anyone anymore. I like living a quiet life. Yeah it gets lonely sometimes, but I'd rather be alone than expect things from people and then get disappointed.

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I know exactly what you mean. So many people have just cut me off or make no effort whatsoever and I dont know why.

Yeah same. You're trying too hard, what you chasing is a dream, a mere illusion. They're clearly not interested in you, that's why they're not making any effort. You can't keep chasing people relentlessly like this, it's not doing any good.

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Like asking people to meeting up & starting conversations with them asking how their life us going & stuff. I like to gee up people, give them compliments, make sure they are ok & everything. However from my life experience so far it always seems I'm more enthusiastic to interact with other people than they are with me. It kinda feels sad, but I just need to keep going as I know shying away will make things worse. I don't know what else to say

Like asking people to meeting up & starting conversations with them asking how their life us going & stuff. I like to gee up people, give them compliments, make sure they are ok & everything. However from my life experience so far it always seems I'm more enthusiastic to interact with other people than they are with me. It kinda feels sad, but I just need to keep going as I know shying away will make things worse. I don't know what else to say

Like asking people to meeting up & starting conversations with them asking how their life us going & stuff. I like to gee up people, give them compliments, make sure they are ok & everything. However from my life experience so far it always seems I'm more enthusiastic to interact with other people than they are with me. It kinda feels sad, but I just need to keep going as I know shying away will make things worse. I don't know what else to say

I used to be like this until I realised any relationship is a two-way street. Maybe all this giving you're doing is coming off as desperate or needy? Giving compliments and faffing around them might come across as not being secure in yourself, and so they either don't want you around that often or when they do it's only to make themselves feel better. Try and find people with similar interests, which is always easier said than done. When you meet people, just concentrate on the small talk and building acquaintances. Make sure you don't force friendship; let them form organically. All the best xx

I can see the other side of the coin here.

I am someone who seems to make friends easily. I never invite anyone to do anything but get invited out a lot. I'm sure my friends feel like they have to do all the running but they don't HAVE to invite me out to things. It's their choice. I have a busy life so don't feel the need to meet up with friends that much.

Sometimes I get invited out a lot and as my friends have different interests it feels like a chore to say no all the time.

This is me. I never invite anyone anywhere like ever. I usually get invited places all the time. Some places I'm not interested in at all and my friends take it the wrong way.. My life isn't that busy to be honest lol I just don't like going out all the time.

However I do check in on people from time to time and make the effort to stay in touch with the the odd meet up which is usually a suggested by both parties, if we haven't seen each other for a good while.

I also feel like this. I actually do keep in touch with my friends by calling and texting and enjoy that. I also meet up in the day with them every now and again but don't enjoy evening things.

I have a baby so this is why my life is busy. I'm tired all the time and the evenings are my time to recouperate

This is me. I never invite anyone anywhere like ever. I usually get invited places all the time. Some places I'm not interested in at all and my friends take it the wrong way.. My life isn't that busy to be honest lol I just don't like going out all the time.

You could test the waters and stop making the effort, your friends may notice and try making an effort more.

I think some people aren't interested in taking the lead and making plans, some don't feel the need to go out all the time and some people don't want to talk as much as we'd like them to.