Would you forgive cheating?

you spent alot of time/resource finding him/her, adapting to him/her, talking, understanding etc., reproducing all of that may be difficult or even impossible.

At the weekend I got involved in a rather heavy debate about whether a wife would forgive her husband if she found out he had cheated on her with someone from work. (This is going on at my friend's workplace)

I personally couldn't even imagine continuing with someone who had betrayed me- and in the case outlined above the husband has been telling someone at work that he could make them so happy etc, and for me that kind of emotional cheating is even more unforgivable...

Would you/have you ever forgiven cheating?

You know, it's funny - I reflexively thought "no chance", when I recalled one ex who was sleeping with her samba instructor while we were together. Now that I think about it though, she did things that I'd retrospectively count as "cheating" throughout the whole relationship and I let it slide because, to my knowledge, no penises entered her.

Now though, in an effort to avoid the same kind of relationship, I think I've painted myself into a corner with what I find acceptable behaviour in a partner. So now I get twitchy when someone I love even laughs at another guy's jokes. How messed up is that?

I consider myself to be a fairly well-balanced, emotionally healthy member of society, but when it comes to romance... it's scary how apparently dysfunctional I am.


edit: forgive? Yes, ALWAYS, because the bitterness will tear you up. But don't expect anything else from them, and if adultery is not what you're after, leave them.

I dont think I personally would have a difficulty relpacing the person..

waaa mate ur edgy aren't u, edgy like a cardboard box

I could never forgive a cheat,ever.

Ohh wait. I'm sorry, I didn't understand the question. I thought we were talking about cheating on exams or something. Then I read "edgy" and thought, 'am i missing something?'
hahahaha.
In my defence, this is studentroom, i sort of expected the question 'would you forgive cheating' to be education related.

I cheated in the sack race at school. Would you forgive me?