Brother owes me £3000 and saying he's broke but he's going on holiday

Sounds like a total tool. I'd stop being nice about it and tell him that you NEED the money back because you're getting into debt due to him and you've been more than reasonable. Are your parents in a position to mediate? I know my mother would absolutely murder my siblings and force them to pay me back if I were in a similar position...

Could you try talking to his wife, and see if she's more reasonable? Or get other family members involved (won't be pretty, but might get your money back)?

You could also take it through the small claims court free of charge, but to be honest I think any action you take risks further damaging your relationship with your brother (not blaming you in the slightest, as it's clear that he's the guilty party, but family feuds are never good!).

My parents just walk around him on egg shells because he has such a temper (he is a ****). He owes them money too.

I lent my brother £3000 for his wedding (April 2014) and he has only paid back £100. I've requested so many times, and he says he doesn't have any money. Then I see on his wife's facebook that they're going Gran Canaria in June. What else can I do? I ask him all the time, atleast pay me back in monthly installments. He just becomes all aloof and sometimes even ignores me.

I'm at Uni doing my Masters and am -£45 in my £1500 overdraft.

This is why whenever I lend to family now I always get them to write me a cheque for the amount six months into the future. That way if they end up refusing to pay you can just cash it in.

I think you should take him to court, that way he will get his arse in gear and suddenly the money will magically appear.

Alternatively, you could borrow it off other family members because you need it and then it is their problem.

I also agree that screaming, shouting and smashing things is a good technique to get someone to pay attention and realise you are serious. Do not be nice about it - go nuts at him. I don't have an anger problem at all but I've found putting this on as an act works wonders.

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And you still felt like lending him £3000 was in any way a good idea ... why, exactly?!

Your brother values his holiday over your Masters. He doesn't care about you, sorry dude but you have to come down hard on him.

That really sucks There must be some small part of him that feels guilty about it. I don't have any advice but I hope you manage to get it back soon.

I'd go and ask him in the most reasonable way possible, then shout him into submission, then try and make him see it's his fault