I'm engaged! But I don't want to do anything??

is this to the one you broke up with? what changed?

There is economic benefits for the female yes because when **** goes tits up, the money, house and assets will only be flowing one way

I did post about it

You're entitled to your opinion, but this isn't the case for us as we both earn a lot, very similar wage each.

I never loved the idea of marriage generally as I agree you don't need to prove anything and like I said I hate the materialistic side of it. However a part of me held onto the idea that if I met someone I truly wanted to spend my life with, I would want to make that promise and commitment. And I have met him. It's about what that means to me and it's nothing to do with anything else for me. Maybe you don't agree with that, but that's how I feel and I'm perfectly entitled to it.

Yes you are entitled to it and by all means enjoy it, but my personal opinion is marriage is some pointless concept drawn up from religion and this idea of being blessed by God. Since religion has all been proved nonsense, the concept itself can be considered nonsense, but everyone to their own

cant find it, mind pasting it/repeating it? its nice to see, from you a couple of months ago to now being fine and engaged good luck

You don't have to look like a meringue or have a flash wedding. I made my own dress to suit my tastes and did not wear a veil.

Make your own choices for the day and don't feel you have to spend a fortune to have a great and memorable day.

Congrats. Well you don't have to want to do anything, but get married of course

And I do I just get tired when I think about having to plan it and stuff

And I do I just get tired when I think about having to plan it and stuff

Hi guys

Haven't been around a lot as work has been insane and also my partner proposed to me, I said yes, lots of happiness etc.

But now it's calming down I feel like everyone wants to know my wedding plans and I haven't even begun to think about it. My career has taken off big time and I'm nearly at the end of my course, I've been busy. But Is it normal to not have any interest in it yet?

All the fuss makes me feel uncomfortable too, although I look feminine I'm not very conventionally (I.e stereotypically) feminine - I have no desire for some dress that looks like a cake or everyone paying attention to me for the whole day. Do you think this could be the reason I'm not so eager or something wrong with me??

First of all, congrats! Second of all, I know how you feel. I've been engaged for a good while now, and I haven't made a single plan. My family were all excited as well, but it's not their wedding, so they will just have to live with whatever my partner and I choose. I'm a constant disappointment to them anyway.

I don't like wearing dresses, so I know I am not going to wear a dress. Don't like wearing rings, either, so I am not going to have a ring. I am actually quite tempted to just go for a registry office ceremony, with just a couple of people there as witnesses. Nice and quick and cheap, too. Can all be done for under £200. Then maybe have a meal after for the four of us.

There are lots of options to do it your own way. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Whatever you and your fiance will enjoy. If you have the money, you could go to Vegas, or have a beach ceremony in another country. You could have a themed wedding. Dress up as pirates or what not (friends of mine actually did that). There shouldn't be any pressure. It's down to the two of you, and the rest will just have to deal with it.

First of all, congrats! Second of all, I know how you feel. I've been engaged for a good while now, and I haven't made a single plan. My family were all excited as well, but it's not their wedding, so they will just have to live with whatever my partner and I choose. I'm a constant disappointment to them anyway.

I don't like wearing dresses, so I know I am not going to wear a dress. Don't like wearing rings, either, so I am not going to have a ring. I am actually quite tempted to just go for a registry office ceremony, with just a couple of people there as witnesses. Nice and quick and cheap, too. Can all be done for under £200. Then maybe have a meal after for the four of us.

There are lots of options to do it your own way. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Whatever you and your fiance will enjoy. If you have the money, you could go to Vegas, or have a beach ceremony in another country. You could have a themed wedding. Dress up as pirates or what not (friends of mine actually did that). There shouldn't be any pressure. It's down to the two of you, and the rest will just have to deal with it.

There is no way I'd have a theme! God no offence to your friends each to their own but I just find that really gaudy and tacky. No Vegas either. Money isn't an issue for us so I'm not against going somewhere. God I dunno

Are you going to do something else instead of the ring thing?

Weddings are such BS, I never understood why two people who love each other need a piece of paper to prove it, pathetic