Boyfriend keeps getting tattoo's which turn me off.

Tattoos are attractive, he's allowed to have any form of body art performed on himself regardless of what anyone else thinks. It's very important for people to be able to express themselves freely, even if they're in relationships. If you lose your right to self-expression, then you've lost a vital part of your humanity.

Say: "Excuse me boyfriend, can you stop getting tattoos for it greatly disgraces your body and I find it unattractive."

Or.

You could strap yourself to a chair for days on end staring at tattoos on the internet and only get let up when your mind finds it attractive as a means of survival.

Tattoos are attractive, he's allowed to have any form of body art performed on himself regardless of what anyone else thinks. It's very important for people to be able to express themselves freely, even if they're in relationships. If you lose your right to self-expression, then you've lost a vital part of your humanity.

At the end of the day it his body, so he can get the tattoos whether you like it or not. It sounds like they'll be something you have to get used to. Besides, if you feel that tattoos are affecting your relationship badly you should reflect on whether you genuinely like him or not.

I can, without consulting my partner, do any number of things that they would no doubt object to vociferously: but that wouldn't make me a very good boyfriend, now, would it?

Don't be pedantic. I'm sure you're intelligent enough to understand what I'm talking about. You make it sound like I'd justify her boyfriend cheating on her since he is his own person. That and getting a tattoo are two totally different situations, one clearly worse than the other.

Don't be pedantic. I'm sure you're intelligent enough to understand what I'm talking about. You make it sound like I'd justify her boyfriend cheating on her since he is his own person. That and getting a tattoo are two totally different situations, one clearly worse than the other.

But he does have a point. She's not attracted to tattoos, so yes, he should have the freedom to get them if he wants but she's not obliged to be attracted to them and likewise she also has the freedom to express her distaste for them.

Don't be pedantic. I'm sure you're intelligent enough to understand what I'm talking about. You make it sound like I'd justify her boyfriend cheating on her since he is his own person. That and getting a tattoo are two totally different situations, one clearly worse than the other.

The fact that a large segment of the populace will be morally incapable of reconciling their romantic ideals with that they perceive as at best, an unsightly faux pas and at worst, an irrevocably disfiguring act of radical self-mutilation makes tattooing—and by extension, body-modification in all its forms—a non-trivial concern between serious partners, which any conscientious adult possessing even the most rudimentary grasp of British social and cultural mores would think it entirely necessary to broach with their significant other beforehand.

Of course, given that the OP's boyfriend was hardly an 'unblemished specimen' prior to their coupling I'd be inclined to chide her naïveté for thinking that his budding penchant for ink would simply stop there. However, 'it's his/her/your/their body' is simply not a pertinent line of reasoning in this context, and nor does it apply prima facie to any emotionally healthy adult relationship of the sort based upon mutual compromise rather than childish, prima-donna narcissism.

The fact that a large segment of the populace will be morally and constitutionally incapable of reconciling their romantic ideals with that they perceive as at best, an unsightly faux pas and at worst, an irrevocably disfiguring act of radical self-mutilation makes tattooing—and by extension, body-modification in all its forms—a non-trivial concern between serious partners, which any conscientious adult possessing even the most rudimentary grasp of British social and cultural mores would think it entirely necessary to broach with their significant other beforehand.

Of course, given that the OP's boyfriend was hardly an 'unblemished specimen' prior to their coupling I'd be inclined to chide her naïveté for thinking that his budding penchant for ink would simply stop there. However, the 'it's his/her/your/their body' platitude is simply not a pertinent line of reasoning in this context, and nor does it apply prima facie to any emotionally healthy adult relationship of the sort based upon open dialogue and mutual compromise rather than childish, prima-donna narcissism.