GIRLS!! Boyfriend looks at other women

He's not bi, it's just that I enjoy girls too in a way (not sexually... I think) and he turns it into something casual.
Also I'm not that jealous of him appreciating looks, only of developing bonds with other girls which I sometimes see as overly sentimental. I know, I'm a bit weird

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This is true, he always tells me how beautiful I am and how attractive therefore I shouldn't get so worked up. Thank you

If I see a pretty building when strolling around I'm going to give it a good look. If I see a nice car I'll turn my head. If I see a quirky tree I'll pay more attention. Why on earth would I or anyone else, not look at an attractive human being?

So I have been with my lovely boyfriend for a few years now, everything is perfect apart from my jealousy problems. He has never cheated, is a very loyal honest guy and does not flirt with any other girls. My problem is this.. when we first got together he did not show any other interest in other females but last year I saw him looking on instagram at a picture of a half naked woman. I was so angry! We had parked by a shop and I offered to run inside and when I came back without intentionally looking at what he was doing, he was on that picture and quickly closed it. Ever since then I am a paranoid state and whenever I leave him when he is on his phone I get anxious and worked up at what he is probably doing. Anyway, a few months after this happening he started following slutty fitness models on instragram who post pictures in their underwear everyday. This got me angry because if he enjoys looking in his own time privately then fair enough but why follow them so that everyone can see and he doesn't miss a single picture they post.

When I confronted him about being angry and hurt by this, he said its natural and every guy does it. We got into an argument and he admitted to looking at other females in public and checking them out which i already knew because he stupidly does it when he is with me. He doesn't make it obvious but I can always tell We have had so many arguments about him being attracted to other women but he said he is never going to unfollow them because all his other friends with girlfriends do it and their girlfriends don't care. His other argument is that me asking him to do that is me asking him to stop being a man.

On one side of the argument I can see his point, all humans find other humans good looking, even myself (but at least I don't feel the need to follow male models or even acknowledge them). He isn't going to act upon his attraction which i know. But on the other side I am infuriated that he cannot stop himself looking when is with me and I shouldn't feel paranoid that every time I leave the room he is checking out other women.

Anyway, sorry for the massive paragraph What im trying to ask is girls... what would you do if you were me and how would you stop letting it get to you or solve this problem. Thank you very much in advance, all replies are appreciated and I will reply to all of them!

My boyfriend does similar at it annoys me too...
Not because I'm insecure, I just find it a bit chavvy/embarrassing to be liking pictures of girls in their underwear and following them ect so publicly, personally i think it should be more of a private thing. I think it makes him look a bit cringey and desperate

Its not a deal breaker though and it doesnt make me think I'm not good enough, like hes gunna cheat on me or anything because he is otherwise fine and still very attentive toward me. (although if he was commenting all the stupid emojis and **** like 'DM me' i'd axe him right away) ..

Boys find girls attractive, the same as they find cars attractive. Think of it like this,
If a nice sports car drives past, a man will stare at it and almost drool.
When a woman walks past, he may stare and almost drool,
In both situations, the attractive object is there.. Looked at.. Then it's gone.. Never to be seen again !
I've never caught my boyfriend looking at another girl personally, and I wouldn't be able to deal with it but I DO know that it's nothing personal, it's just 'attractive', probably the same way girls look at makeup or clothes (If that's your thing)

Hope this made sense! Lol

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Yeah, all guys do it

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I believe although all guys do, some exist who can control themselves especially around their girl

My boyfriend does similar at it annoys me too...
Not because I'm insecure, I just find it a bit chavvy/embarrassing to be liking pictures of girls in their underwear and following them ect so publicly, personally i think it should be more of a private thing. I think it makes him look a bit cringey and desperate

Its not a deal breaker though and it doesnt make me think I'm not good enough, like hes gunna cheat on me or anything because he is otherwise fine and still very attentive toward me. (although if he was commenting all the stupid emojis and **** like 'DM me' i'd axe him right away) ..

Not sure if anyone has said this but do it to him. Check out other guys in public and follow male models. Don't do it suddenly because he'll understand what you're trying to do but start off slow. See what he says etc.


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Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I've honestly never ever caught him looking at any other girl & doesn't like Instagram pics or anything like that which makes my life SO much easier lol. And trust me, I'm a very realistic person, and not nieve or oblivious so it's not that I just over look it, it just doesn't happen. So yeah I think they do exist, I also think that if a boy looks at another girl I front of you, knowing u can see him doing it, that he's very disrespectful and I wouldn't be able to deal with it as it would hurt my feelings and get me mad. But I do think that men look at beautiful women at objects and my previous comment was the logical explanation for it, although I understand it's hard to think of it like that at the time X