I agree with the person who said it is probably because these people are middle class or grew up in a less multicultural area? I know what you mean about dead banter. Some white people are really friendly but there is just this barrier that can't be crossed. I feel like I have to be careful about what I say, how I talk and how much of myself I can expose to them. I am from a working class background and I have to adapt the way I talk at work. I remember driving and I usually answer my phone on speaker but stopped because I don't know what my whie colleague will think of me if the way my friends and I talk. I don't know if they are ready for our kind of banter either. Another thing is they tend to be snitches lol. Like over minor things. (An example would be ... I call in sick at a training day at work. Can I tell bob or nah? Will he snitch on me?) From experience, I have found them harder to trust. So if I want to tell some funny stories which involve my family, I feel careful saying it around white people. Especially if they are middle class.
They seem to be really sensitive too. I want to be able to make fun of white people for eating **** like shepherds pie and thinking ketchup is spicy without them telling me to go back to my country. Those are the kind of white people I **** with because I can have banter. They usually tend to either have grown up in a multicultural area or are just open to understanding other cultures. Really understanding them and accepting that their way of life is different, not superior (I agree with the person who said that they act like they are better than others sometimes).
And this is thread is not racist. It's sad that when me or my friends meet a chill white person it can be a surprise and we will make a point of saying 'he/ she is white but so chill.' We are not against white people. I would like to have more white friends who I really can have banter with and who I can trust