Poor boyfriend help

were both Muslims lol, and he is trying but obviously not hard enough. I know he's trying because he's always searching for one has done voluntary experience etc to increase his chances , but he has no inheritance or savings or nothing :/

Absolutely nothing gold-diggerish about wanting your future partner to not be a bum.

u need to remind him what his religion says so he takes it more seriously and if he still doesnt improve then you know hes not even serious about his religion

And u need to be quiet

How about he gets a temporary job in something mediocre in the meantime (retail or such) just to help himself while he searches for a more fitting job for his qualifications? I know most clarks stores in london are hiring :P the one in muswell hill is insanely short staffed

I don't know about the Uk, but in the states, the first thing a prospective employer does, in running a background investigation (BI) on a candidate, is to check their employment record. Having someplace like McDonalds or a grocery store on there, if you are (for example) an electrical engineer, is generally the 'kiss of death'. The (somewhat understandable) reaction of the prospective employer is: "If this guy/gal is competent, what's he doing flipping burgers???? Now, if you owned the store, that might be some excuse, but that is unlikely to be the case here.

If you are consulting in your field, that's ok, even part time. Working totally outside your area, might be a risk to future employment. Presuming that the guy/gal has some industrial experience, a consulting arrangement might be available. I used to know a couple that 'job shopped' - a phrase used to describe people who take short term contracts to help a company 'over the hump' in - for example - launching a new product. The company needs software help for 3 to 6 months to get some code written. The couple would go to the work location, help out for the necessary time, and then leave. They did that for about 30 years. You are paid more than a regular employee, but your job ends when the need for your work ends. I taught during a layoff at a company i worked at (i have a master's degree - so i'm qualified to teach at the uni level). That lasted about 6 months, which was long enough to find and get another engineering job. I wish him luck, but if he holds a 4 yr degree, he should find something fairly soon (altho he may have to work outside the Uk). Cheers.

Just leave him for his own sake. You don't deserve him. Stop acting like a ****ing princess, you're not.

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read on here. You want to leave a guy because he doesn't earn enough money to let you live the lifestyle you want to. Sounds like golddigging on your behalf.
SUPPORT YOURSELF! you don't need him to support you both, it's 2018 and women can work and earn enough to live a more than good enough lifestyle by themselves! You two should support each other not just him support you.
Also, his mother and family came before you so stop being so self centred. He has every right to support his family, it is what you'll be asking him to do if you marry him after all. Your not his only family ffs.
If he wasn't remotely trying to get a job then by all means your right in wanting to leve him over it. However you've said yourself that he is trying to get one. Finding a job is never easy and money is not everything.
Break up with the poor fella, for his sake. Not having to marry a women who is more bothered about herself and her own money grabbing needs than the important things. Clearly only one of you have the right life values.

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read on here. You want to leave a guy because he doesn't earn enough money to let you live the lifestyle you want to. Sounds like golddigging on your behalf.
SUPPORT YOURSELF! you don't need him to support you both, it's 2018 and women can work and earn enough to live a more than good enough lifestyle by themselves! You two should support each other not just him support you.
Also, his mother and family came before you so stop being so self centred. He has every right to support his family, it is what you'll be asking him to do if you marry him after all. Your not his only family ffs.
If he wasn't remotely trying to get a job then by all means your right in wanting to leve him over it. However you've said yourself that he is trying to get one. Finding a job is never easy and money is not everything.
Break up with the poor fella, for his sake. Not having to marry a women who is more bothered about herself and her own money grabbing needs than the important things. Clearly only one of you have the right life values.

You're approaching relationships all wrong. The only thing to think about is are you happy together. Take a step back. Think long and hard about that. It isn't his job to financially support you. You support each other equally because you love each other and you're stronger together.

Getting married to someone means you intend to stick it out for not just the good but the bad too, so that means one of you being seriously ill or jobless or worse. If your lifestyle is important to you in that sense then I would be kind to him and end the relationship.

Yeah this is best advice. If you're too much of an invertebrate to speak to him about it then end it lol. Enough people have vindicated your already made up mind, stop being a pussy and end for both your sakes 🙄

What if he gets a good job in the next six months though

I don't know about the Uk, but in the states, the first thing a prospective employer does, in running a background investigation (BI) on a candidate, is to check their employment record. Having someplace like McDonalds or a grocery store on there, if you are (for example) an electrical engineer, is generally the 'kiss of death'. The (somewhat understandable) reaction of the prospective employer is: "If this guy/gal is competent, what's he doing flipping burgers???? Now, if you owned the store, that might be some excuse, but that is unlikely to be the case here.

If you are consulting in your field, that's ok, even part time. Working totally outside your area, might be a risk to future employment. Presuming that the guy/gal has some industrial experience, a consulting arrangement might be available. I used to know a couple that 'job shopped' - a phrase used to describe people who take short term contracts to help a company 'over the hump' in - for example - launching a new product. The company needs software help for 3 to 6 months to get some code written. The couple would go to the work location, help out for the necessary time, and then leave. They did that for about 30 years. You are paid more than a regular employee, but your job ends when the need for your work ends. I taught during a layoff at a company i worked at (i have a master's degree - so i'm qualified to teach at the uni level). That lasted about 6 months, which was long enough to find and get another engineering job. I wish him luck, but if he holds a 4 yr degree, he should find something fairly soon (altho he may have to work outside the Uk). Cheers.

I don't know why you're accusing me of being a gold digger. I'm pretty sure most girls look out for guys who can provide stability and security. It's in our nature to do that.

I'm not saying he's a bad person. I'm saying a future with him doesn't look bright at the moment and his financial situation has never been great at home. He doesn't have anyone or anything to support him or back him up if worse comes to worst.

Sorry if I came across as selfish but I'm a bit skeptical about these things as I have two cousins who married guys who were not as well off and don't want to go through the same struggle as them. I really don't think I'm being gold digging or selfish since I'm going out with him when I could simply get with a more well off guy.

I'm not asking for a luxury life style in Dubai. I'm simply asking or worried about the benefit life style and having to live on some crappy estate which I really would hate.