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Always happens with girls

Assuming some of these answers aren't going to be like, j give up i would like to have some advice on this particular thing:

So of course dms are messaging, like a filter u can say whatever you want without the consequences, i've being trying to go for youngers in my school and like they all think im fit, hench and funny over text but then when i acc meet em im not like how i am in text, funny im somewhat confident but like today i met a girl i liked and it wasnt awkward i hugged her before she had to go to the dentist or something but as soon as i left she j puts, new people talk on her story and i was like what have i done wrong and she j took a longtime to text back and they were a lot more plain.

what can i do to try and fix this?
lol
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Original post by Anonymous
lol


thanks for the bloody reply, always great to know when u open your dms in the morning and theres a , we are j mates right? honestly j piss off she complains about guys j leaving her bloody hypocrite
Reply 3
It happens, I think that's normal. I think you should speak to the girls on the phone to see if you have any real connection before you meet in person.
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
Assuming some of these answers aren't going to be like, j give up i would like to have some advice on this particular thing:

So of course dms are messaging, like a filter u can say whatever you want without the consequences, i've being trying to go for youngers in my school and like they all think im fit, hench and funny over text but then when i acc meet em im not like how i am in text, funny im somewhat confident but like today i met a girl i liked and it wasnt awkward i hugged her before she had to go to the dentist or something but as soon as i left she j puts, new people talk on her story and i was like what have i done wrong and she j took a longtime to text back and they were a lot more plain.

what can i do to try and fix this?


What the **** do you mean you are 'trying to go for youngers in your schools'? ****ing date someone your age. Although if you can't even impress a younger girl in real life, then there's probably no hope for you. You sound oddly needy and possessive, too, and come off as a creep.
Reply 5
Original post by Ciel.
What the **** do you mean you are 'trying to go for youngers in your schools'? ****ing date someone your age. Although if you can't even impress a younger girl in real life, then there's probably no hope for you. You sound oddly needy and possessive, too, and come off as a creep.


youngers as in one year below? is that a problem? if it is you have an issue, why is it easier to impress a younger girl? and what makes me sound needy and possessive?
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
youngers as in one year below? is that a problem? if it is you have an issue, why is it easier to impress a younger girl? and what makes me sound needy and possessive?


It can be a problem, depending on your age. And it's easier to impress a younger girl because younger people are more naive/less experienced/think it's cool to date an older person.

It's the way you talk. Obsessed with getting a girlfriend. And you sound so entitled. And this 'new people talk on her story'... So what? What's wrong with that?
Original post by Anonymous
Assuming some of these answers aren't going to be like, j give up i would like to have some advice on this particular thing:

So of course dms are messaging, like a filter u can say whatever you want without the consequences, i've being trying to go for youngers in my school and like they all think im fit, hench and funny over text but then when i acc meet em im not like how i am in text, funny im somewhat confident but like today i met a girl i liked and it wasnt awkward i hugged her before she had to go to the dentist or something but as soon as i left she j puts, new people talk on her story and i was like what have i done wrong and she j took a longtime to text back and they were a lot more plain.

what can i do to try and fix this?


Girls are complicated wouldn't fret, some play hard to get. What do you mean you are funny in person?

Best advice is to share an activity that way the awkwardness is removed. Usually when people fall in love it happens around shared activity. Find out what the girl likes (ice skating? whatever it is) and then do that with her. It is better because over time girls start associating the happiness and joy they get in the activity with you. I.e. they fall in love with you because they love the activity. - Theres a weird psychology to love.

Plus, meetups with no shared activity and just socialising can be really awkward for the other person.. because what do you do. Give it time
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Original post by Ciel.
It can be a problem, depending on your age. And it's easier to impress a younger girl because younger people are more naive/less experienced/think it's cool to date an older person.

It's the way you talk. Obsessed with getting a girlfriend. And you sound so entitled. And this 'new people talk on her story'... So what? What's wrong with that?


it's because she seemd really damn interested in me and she even said she was, of course this judgement was from over text and j what i looked like so i walked her to the dentist and a few minutes later she puts 'new people talk xx' doesn't that j sound a bit weird? and this morning she texts me we are j mates right... i knew for a fact she was interested before we met but idk how to keep it that way. im not necessarily obsessed with getting a girlfriend it's just advice i want how to transfer my self from text to person
Reply 9
Original post by Henrysewell96
Girls are complicated wouldn't fret, some play hard to get. What do you mean you are funny in person?

Best advice is to share an activity that way the awkwardness is removed. Usually when people fall in love it happens around shared activity. Find out what the girl likes (ice skating? whatever it is) and then do that with her. It is better because over time girls start associating the happiness and joy they get in the activity with you. I.e. they fall in love with you because they love the activity. - Theres a weird psychology to love.

Plus, meetups with no shared activity and just socialising can be really awkward for the other person.. because what do you do. Give it time


i meant funny over text, i am somewhat funny in person but like i can't be like proper sarcastic and yeh i guess thanks for the advice
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
it's because she seemd really damn interested in me and she even said she was, of course this judgement was from over text and j what i looked like so i walked her to the dentist and a few minutes later she puts 'new people talk xx' doesn't that j sound a bit weird? and this morning she texts me we are j mates right... i knew for a fact she was interested before we met but idk how to keep it that way. im not necessarily obsessed with getting a girlfriend it's just advice i want how to transfer my self from text to person


There's no way around that. Most people seem 'cooler' when you talk to them via texts, since texting usually gives you more time to respond, and you are more confident. Even if you and the other person seem to be a perfect match, when texting, that doesn't necessarily mean you will 'click' in real life.
Reply 11
Your place or mine?

By the way, you need to tell him how to 'transfer himself from text to person', it's beyond my abilities.
Original post by Ciel.
There's no way around that. Most people seem 'cooler' when you talk to them via texts, since texting usually gives you more time to respond, and you are more confident. Even if you and the other person seem to be a perfect match, when texting, that doesn't necessarily mean you will 'click' in real life.


Original post by Ciel.
Your place or mine?

By the way, you need to tell him how to 'transfer himself from text to person', it's beyond my abilities.


haha, well yeh i guess, it's j this constantly happens i j dk how to make thing 'click'
Is it too much effort to type the word "just"? It's only 3 extra letters.
Original post by DrawTheLine
Is it too much effort to type the word "just"? It's only 3 extra letters.


does it matter.
Original post by Anonymous
does it matter.


Yeah because it makes your post harder to read.
Original post by DrawTheLine
Yeah because it makes your post harder to read.


but you obviously understand so stop being so pedantic.
Original post by Anonymous
but you obviously understand so stop being so pedantic.


Yes I understand but not easily.

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