Need to go to uni tomorrow but brother stopping me

He needs to learn how the world works. If he is not doing anything else he should be taking some responsibility, so unless he gets a job, the school run should be his every day. However, I don’t understand why the 11 year old can’t go by himself, surely by now he knows how to get there after 6 months.

Some parents get paranoid when their cute 11 year olds start trying to travel the world on their own. Never know who might shank them, and yes, that is a genuine concern of many parents in regards to the safety of their kids.

Though, OP, just do as the others has suggested and simply carry on with your plans.

Bin or hide all the lazy f*cks snacks and make him have a reason to go out tomorrow. If he won't do it then the 11 year old gets a day off. Your plans are important and his laziness shouldn't be stopping them.

I agree with the others. You need to be brave and go to uni. Just say nothing and carry on with your plans.
It’s important that you make it clear you can help when you’re free but should not be relied upon on a daily basis. Be strong

He needs to learn how the world works. If he is not doing anything else he should be taking some responsibility, so unless he gets a job, the school run should be his every day. However, I don’t understand why the 11 year old can’t go by himself, surely by now he knows how to get there after 6 months.

Some parents get paranoid when their cute 11 year olds start trying to travel the world on their own. Never know who might shank them, and yes, that is a genuine concern of many parents in regards to the safety of their kids.

Though, OP, just do as the others has suggested and simply carry on with your plans.

Your brother is not your responsibility. He is not your son. University is a crucial point in your life and you should not have to sacrifice any part of it. If your mother knows you have a tutorial and your older brother is being too lazy to do it, it is up to her to make alternative plans for your younger brother.

Go to your tutorial tomorrow. Make it clear that you will be going. You have no obligation to not go in order to do the school run for your brother.

Also, at 11 I was making my way to school in another town on my own weeks after having moved countries. There's only so long she can baby him, and doing so is going to make life harder for him and her.

Stop shouldering your mother's responsibilities. Start worrying about yourself and your future.

I know you want to help, and it's good when you can, but your brothers are NOT your responsibility. It's great that you will take him to school when you're able to, but you have to make your own life, and your course, the priority. Your mum should never, ever expect you to miss uni to do that.

Just on a side note: please don't let your younger brother hear you arguing about taking him to school. He will feel like he's unwanted and a burden, and will feel guilty that nobody wants to take him.

Ultimately, it's your mum's problem to solve. I think your brother is being lazy saying he doesn't want to get up and take him - he could go back to bed after if he wanted if he's doing nothing else - but if he really doesn't want to do it, then it's not his problem either. Parents should have plans for these things, without relying on older siblings for childcare. I would always help with my younger brother, but that's not to say that I have to if that makes sense.

Don't do anything, go to uni like you planned. Don't bother bickering over whether he's faking or not, its irrelevant and you can't prove it, whether he is or isn't doesn't change the fact you aren't available that day, you've made clear you'll help when you can.

If your sitting home deadbeat you don't get to pester people with things to do to give you friggin respite cover. If i was the parent i'd be compassionately helping by removing all those nasty headache causing electronics from his bedroom .

Don't do anything, go to uni like you planned. Don't bother bickering over whether he's faking or not, its irrelevant and you can't prove it, whether he is or isn't doesn't change the fact you aren't available that day, you've made clear you'll help when you can.

If your sitting home deadbeat you don't get to pester people with things to do to give you friggin respite cover. If i was the parent i'd be compassionately helping by removing all those nasty headache causing electronics from his bedroom .

Is anyone else hating this older brother? He sounds far too entitled and gets away with anything.

Like others said your brother isn't your problem. It's nice to help out but as you know yoir trip to uni is too important. Stand your ground and yojr mum will have to force that lazy sh*t to fo one thing that week.
I understand his laziness but I can also see he is taking the p*ss.

It's tempting to take his TV, not going to lie. I've just had to do him pancakes because he wanted some and can't cook them and when I said I was busy doing my coursework he rang mum and told her that I wasn't helping him when he was sick so she got mad at me over the phone and then he tried to do them himself and nearly burnt the kitchen down.
I had a problem with my debit card - there was a payment I didn't know about so they cancelled my card. I have train tickets for every other time I have uni between now and the end of first year but I already went to the bank and asked if I could withdraw money without the card and they said no, so in order to get the train ticket tomorrow I'm relying on mum to give me money to pay for it. I'm not saying she might refuse to give me the money, but it's probably best I stay on her good side and convince her how important tomorrow is because she still hasn't given me the money yet.

You really are shouldering too much responsibility & 17 your old is being incredibly selfish. He’s messing ALL of you around because he’s lazy. If he doesn’t get a job he needs to contribute in other ways. It’s admirable that you are helping your mum & you are already contributing buying food & helping with 11 year old, but your course is important, you can’t simply miss it because your brother thinks the school run is tiring (poor thing). That just shows his attitude is awful & he had no work ethic. Although you know he’s faking, your mother should still make him do the school run as that’s the sort of thing grown ups have to do! He’s living tent free & not lifting a finger to help, if he gets away with it this time he’ll do it more & more. Go to uni!!!!!

I know it's tempting, but there doesn't seem anything to be GAINED by bickering with him or your mum. You're merely putting your foot down and making it clear that as an adult you already have significant responsibilities that day, just like she does. You'd like to help that day, you can't.

Also if shes obv happy leaving you responsible for his wellbeing, you could just call an ambulance, It sounds touch & go.