I like a girl and I am Muslim

Thoroughly look into the religion that dictates your every move. #Ex Muslim :smile:

Reply 23

ibyghee

19

Original post by Ruhab Dabeer

The Sexual Stuff I am not too sure about but the kissing is Hell No in my option
Thanks for the support tho
😁

J

what do you mean by not sure about sexual stuff but no kissing? I mean to have sex you gotta kiss, well you don't have too but would be kinda weird.

Reply 24

username4626084

Original post by Ruhab Dabeer

With my knowledge I just know that Asking her out to a date is Haram . I really just wanna be very close friends.
If you have any Muslim friends plz tell them about this problem

Lmfao.. having a crush or feelings toward a girl isn’t haram. Fyi asking her out isn’t haram either. Unless you’re planning to get laid. Otherwise, if you’re looking for a pure and honest relationship. It’s fine

Reply 25

Anonymous #2

can i ask what ultimately made u leave islam?

Original post by someonenoone

Thoroughly look into the religion that dictates your every move. #Ex Muslim :smile:

Reply 26

samela786

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Original post by Talhawaseem02

I’m not sure - Muslim here.
I have been in your situation b4 but with a white girl. We both did like each other but we couldn’t go any further - advice I got from tsr etc. But that was a yr ago - at 15 so we were young. At your age (post college) if you are both Muslim I don’t see what’s wrong if there is a possible marriage in the future - cuz we need to start somewhere to find a partner.

It really doesn't matter if she is follows another religion
as it says in the Quran

Reply 27

ChronicRetard

5

Salaam - I am an observant Jew which is obviously not the same but from what I understand about Islam we have some very fundamental similarities.
Anyway from what I've learnt is that we can't let our inclination to do evil dominate us. I heard something similar from a Muslim guy I know who told me the greatest Jihad that of oneself. So I think the question here is really wether you think this relationship would jeopardize your belief and trust in G!d. I think it is also true that this evil inclination has some spark of godliness otherwise their would be no reason for G!d to have created it in the first place. So what purpose does it serve? if we are craving for something forbidden/haram it is likely it is because we are looking to fulfill a purer more sacred version of that same emotion e.g. Anger and the desire to see justice, Love/intimacy and lust, ect
Really it is all up to you. What do you think G!d wants from you and how can you ensure that your relationship with Him is not effected in any negative manner by impure urges and rather utilize such devices for the good of mankind.

Original post by Ruhab Dabeer

Hi everyone I got a little problem. I am a Sunni Muslim and I heavily respect Islam but there is a girl in my college who is also a Muslim and I really like her because she is a very nice person and her personality. I kinda have a crush on her but is this Haram to have a crush and I want to be her boyfriend though I plan to do this right after I end college.
But please help if this is Haram or anything or an advice to get close to her. In Islam it is essential to pass down knowledge so having a wife is essential.
My friend has a girlfriend who is also a Muslim and both of his parents and his gf's parents know they are together.
I don't want to be that lovey dovey or kissy guy
I just wanna be very close friends with her
So plz help!!!

Reply 28

Ruhab Dabeer

OP

19

Life s not great m8

Original post by Anonymous

i also have a big crush on this girl, she's everything, but i know our paths will never cross for a future together :frown:

i moved into a different martial arts class, so i only get a glimpse of her after their class is done pepehands

Reply 29

Original post by Ruhab Dabeer

Hi everyone I got a little problem. I am a Sunni Muslim and I heavily respect Islam but there is a girl in my college who is also a Muslim and I really like her because she is a very nice person and her personality. I kinda have a crush on her but is this Haram to have a crush and I want to be her boyfriend though I plan to do this right after I end college.
But please help if this is Haram or anything or an advice to get close to her. In Islam it is essential to pass down knowledge so having a wife is essential.
My friend has a girlfriend who is also a Muslim and both of his parents and his gf's parents know they are together.
I don't want to be that lovey dovey or kissy guy
I just wanna be very close friends with her
So plz help!!!

It's haraam in Islam to interact and free-mix with a non-mahram of the opposite gender outside of professional reasons. You cannot be "friends" with her either as it is haraam. Having a "crush" or attraction to the opposite gender is not haraam, it is from the natural desires of mankind, the opposite genders have been created by Allah(swt) like this and they are naturally attracted to each other. However, acting upon this in a haraam manner is haraam, and instead you should seek a halal means which is to go via a third person and ask for the sisters male mahram contact details(her brothers/father) or preferably her wali(which may be her father). You can arrange meetings then with her mahrams present.

Secondly, you should try to lower you gaze as this is what has caused you to fall into this situation of "infactuation". And in Islam, Love does not exist before marriage. Don't be a dayooth and waste your time and waste the sisters time, be a man and go to her brothers/father using the method I have explained and arrange meetings in the presense of her mahrams so you can get to know her, then you will know whether or not she is compatible and a good muslimah and suitable for marriage.

Thirdly, being in education still is not a barrier to marriage. Marriage in Islam is not the same as that of the western culture or the "desi" culture of having some sort of big wedding thing. Rather it is just to get the nikah contract signed so that you two become halal for each other according to the Sharia' of Allah(swt). You can then talk to the sister and do whatever you want as your interaction etc. is all halal as you are married to her. You can agree to stay with your parents and she can stay with her parents and after you have finished education, and have a job you can agree to then move in together. So this is the idea of marriage in Islam and in Islam it is encouraged to get married young. Sadly, it is the backward culture of many parents who are cultural and dont have much knowledge in islam so they make things hard as they thing you have to finish eduction get a job buy a house etc. to get married. You said you have an attachment to Islam which means you care about Al Islam, and you have some level of imaan and taqwa of Allah(swt), so do the correct thing, don't disobey Allah(swt). Don't turn your back on Allah, otherwise Allah will leave you and you are the one in need of Allah, and Allah is not in need of anyone.

I can personally also attest that this type of marriage works and I have seen many of examples of this working. I too also received a proposal actually whilst I was in sixth form from a sister. It all depends on whether your parents are cultural or Islamic. If they care more about Islam then it will be easier for you.

Reply 30

username4626084

Original post by Gold DInar

It's haraam in Islam to interact and free-mix with a non-mahram of the opposite gender outside of professional reasons. You cannot be "friends" with her either as it is haraam. Having a "crush" or attraction to the opposite gender is not haraam, it is from the natural desires of mankind, the opposite genders have been created by Allah(swt) like this and they are naturally attracted to each other. However, acting upon this in a haraam manner is haraam, and instead you should seek a halal means which is to go via a third person and ask for the sisters male mahram contact details(her brothers/father) or preferably her wali(which may be her father). You can arrange meetings then with her mahrams present.

Secondly, you should try to lower you gaze as this is what has caused you to fall into this situation of "infactuation". And in Islam, Love does not exist before marriage. Don't be a dayooth and waste your time and waste the sisters time, be a man and go to her brothers/father using the method I have explained and arrange meetings in the presense of her mahrams so you can get to know her, then you will know whether or not she is compatible and a good muslimah and suitable for marriage.

Thirdly, being in education still is not a barrier to marriage. Marriage in Islam is not the same as that of the western culture or the "desi" culture of having some sort of big wedding thing. Rather it is just to get the nikah contract signed so that you two become halal for each other according to the Sharia' of Allah(swt). You can then talk to the sister and do whatever you want as your interaction etc. is all halal as you are married to her. You can agree to stay with your parents and she can stay with her parents and after you have finished education, and have a job you can agree to then move in together. So this is the idea of marriage in Islam and in Islam it is encouraged to get married young. Sadly, it is the backward culture of many parents who are cultural and dont have much knowledge in islam so they make things hard as they thing you have to finish eduction get a job buy a house etc. to get married. You said you have an attachment to Islam which means you care about Al Islam, and you have some level of imaan and taqwa of Allah(swt), so do the correct thing, don't disobey Allah(swt). Don't turn your back on Allah, otherwise Allah will leave you and you are the one in need of Allah, and Allah is not in need of anyone.

I can personally also attest that this type of marriage works and I have seen many of examples of this working. I too also received a proposal actually whilst I was in sixth form from a sister. It all depends on whether your parents are cultural or Islamic. If they care more about Islam then it will be easier for you.

So basically you’re saying approaching a girl that I’m into is haram?

Reply 31

Rockroo

12

Bro first of all it is not haram to interact with her Aka Ask her out
He is getting into a serious age where marriage is within a few years
Also He shouldnt directly go to the father or brother but should go to her first spend time with her Keeping the haram stuff aside (Touching,kissing and also S**) that is why during khotbah (engagment)
The Girl and man can talk to each other to see if they like or dislike each other

Original post by Gold DInar

It's haraam in Islam to interact and free-mix with a non-mahram of the opposite gender outside of professional reasons. You cannot be "friends" with her either as it is haraam. Having a "crush" or attraction to the opposite gender is not haraam, it is from the natural desires of mankind, the opposite genders have been created by Allah(swt) like this and they are naturally attracted to each other. However, acting upon this in a haraam manner is haraam, and instead you should seek a halal means which is to go via a third person and ask for the sisters male mahram contact details(her brothers/father) or preferably her wali(which may be her father). You can arrange meetings then with her mahrams present.

Secondly, you should try to lower you gaze as this is what has caused you to fall into this situation of "infactuation". And in Islam, Love does not exist before marriage. Don't be a dayooth and waste your time and waste the sisters time, be a man and go to her brothers/father using the method I have explained and arrange meetings in the presense of her mahrams so you can get to know her, then you will know whether or not she is compatible and a good muslimah and suitable for marriage.

Thirdly, being in education still is not a barrier to marriage. Marriage in Islam is not the same as that of the western culture or the "desi" culture of having some sort of big wedding thing. Rather it is just to get the nikah contract signed so that you two become halal for each other according to the Sharia' of Allah(swt). You can then talk to the sister and do whatever you want as your interaction etc. is all halal as you are married to her. You can agree to stay with your parents and she can stay with her parents and after you have finished education, and have a job you can agree to then move in together. So this is the idea of marriage in Islam and in Islam it is encouraged to get married young. Sadly, it is the backward culture of many parents who are cultural and dont have much knowledge in islam so they make things hard as they thing you have to finish eduction get a job buy a house etc. to get married. You said you have an attachment to Islam which means you care about Al Islam, and you have some level of imaan and taqwa of Allah(swt), so do the correct thing, don't disobey Allah(swt). Don't turn your back on Allah, otherwise Allah will leave you and you are the one in need of Allah, and Allah is not in need of anyone.

I can personally also attest that this type of marriage works and I have seen many of examples of this working. I too also received a proposal actually whilst I was in sixth form from a sister. It all depends on whether your parents are cultural or Islamic. If they care more about Islam then it will be easier for you.

Reply 32

mgi

Original post by Ruhab Dabeer

Tbf you are totally right in that
I don't want my parents to pick me a girl
But I am gonna pick a girl obviously halal otherwise I ain't doing me self good

Yes. It is fine to respect your principles.

Reply 33

someonenoone

Original post by Anonymous

can i ask what ultimately made u leave islam?

Its a religion based on fear. From an early age i always questioned why a loving god would put non Muslims into hell simply because they are not Muslim, even if they were a good person. In Islam only Muslims can enter heaven. Being born a female too means that I am supposedly worth half of a man. In the end, though hard since I've been socialised into believing this since birth, i came to the conclusion that it is all made up. As i am an apostate according to Prophet Muhammad i should be killed. Sounds like a mafia boss

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 34

mgi

Original post by someonenoone

Its a religion based on fear. From an early age i always questioned why a loving god would put non Muslims into hell simply because they are not Muslim, even if they were a good person. In Islam only Muslims can enter heaven. Being born a female too means that I am supposedly worth half of a man. In the end, though hard since I've been socialised into believing this since birth, i came to the conclusion that it is all made up. As i am an apostate according to Prophet Muhammad i should be killed. Sounds like a mafia boss

The comments made by so many muslims on these threads gives a bad impression of Islam and makes it look so unattractive. No compassion and even some trolling. And very defensive about things that don't even make sense to themselves. Most couldn't explain the texts from the Quran. They just use them to attack others and judge them.

Reply 35

Original post by nha.

So basically you’re saying approaching a girl that I’m into is haram?

Never said that. The best method to approach a practicing sister is via a third party as I said. However, if that is not possible in any way, then it is possible to respectfully, ask directly for her mahram/wali contact details.

Original post by Rockroo

Bro first of all it is not haram to interact with her Aka Ask her out
He is getting into a serious age where marriage is within a few years
Also He shouldnt directly go to the father or brother but should go to her first spend time with her Keeping the haram stuff aside (Touching,kissing and also S**) that is why during khotbah (engagment)
The Girl and man can talk to each other to see if they like or dislike each other

You are incorrect and you should be careful when speaking on matters within Islam, and calling something halal when it is actually something haraam. This is an act of kufr(disbelief) in Islam and you could leave the religion - however you have the excuse of ignorance in this case as you are a jahil. But next time you should hold your tongue when speaking regarding matters of Islam without knowledge. - But someone like Abu Layth, of course, he is a kafir with the amount of kufr he has in this videos whilst claiming to be "knowledgeable" or "studied".

Free-mixing outside of professional reasons and just "talking" to the sister and "asking her out" without her mahrams present is haraam. You can speak to her in this manner with her mahram(s) present. You can also make a whatsapp gc with her and her mahram(who can ghost) and you can also speak to her in this manner. You should learn what islam says regarding these matters instead of doing blind taqlid on the western concept of "romance, love and marriage".

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 36

DukeNukem

Well, in muslim majority countries gay people tend to "fall" of buildings or lose their heads in various "accidents" :biggrin:

Original post by lil squid

Im probably being very uneducated but why is it haram in islam to have a crush?

Reply 37

Original post by DukeNukem

Well, in muslim majority countries gay people tend to "fall" of buildings or lose their heads in various "accidents" :biggrin:

The punishment in the Sharia' of Allah(swt) is upon commiting the acts of homosexuality. Not for just being a homosexual in itself. Moreover, how would one know that you commited homosexual acts unless you did it in a public place for people to see. Being a homosexual ie. being attracted to the opposite gender is against nature and it is haraam to act upon these desires, a test from allah.

Reply 38

DukeNukem

Sure, lets let bunch of isis level fanatics to decide if you are gay enough for beheading, right? I am sure that it will be fair process and that girl would be treated as an equal :biggrin:

Original post by Gold DInar

The punishment in the Sharia' of Allah(swt) is upon commiting the acts of homosexuality. Not for just being a homosexual in itself. Moreover, how would one know that you commited homosexual acts unless you did it in a public place for people to see. Being a homosexual ie. being attracted to the opposite gender is against nature and it is haraam to act upon these desires, a test from allah.

Reply 39