I spread rumours about my friend when she left, she's coming back now

First of all there’s no excusing what you have done and I think the best thing you can do is take accountability and I mean truly take accountability. No buts or excuses, I have social anxiety too, you need to talk to her properly and tell her exactly what you said, maybe give your reasoning without trying to excuse your behaviour and hope that she accepts your apology. If you spread any lies, I’d clear those up with the people you told them to.

Another thing, how was she toxic? You don’t have to be friends with her but the right thing to do would be to stick up for her if anything did happen. Don’t be a bully to get out of being bullied. Be better.

Good luck, I hope you enjoy year 10

What you did is unacceptable, and you should be expecting her to not want to be friends with you anymore.
Tell her the truth, and from there you cannot do anything more. It is her decision if she wants to stay friends from there on.

What do you mean by 'she was toxic'? Why are you still hanging out with a person you know is toxic?
Doesnt matter. Saying that she was toxic isnt helping your case, since you have stooped to her level.

great friend
I would totally love to be your friend irl

honestly, it wasn’t a nice thing to do but we all do things we regret! you obviously feel bad about it so you’ve learnt from your mistakes!

best thing to do is message her and explain what you’ve done. be totally honest with her and just tell her what you told other people. there’s nothing worse than her believing you’re best mates when you haven’t told her what you did.

talk with her and see what she says. apologise and offer to hang with her at school. that way it’s up to her whether she wants to pursue a friendship with you, or just find a new group of friends.

make sure you apologise and try to make your mistakes right again. maybe explain to the people you told the rumours to that they aren’t true?

hope this helps

You’re actually such a sh*t person

Thanks alot for not judging> I was going to tell everyone the rumours were not true but then lockdown hit and i wasnt able to do so.. hopefully i can di it soon enough and apologise properly

Update I just sent my friend a long message apologizing. she probably wont see it now since its 11:15pm but I feel so much better to apologise and hold my self accountable. I hope she understands

you did the right thing! don’t spend all your time blaming yourself, you’ve grown and matured as a person and learnt from your mistakes

Thank you so much you don't understand how much this means to me!!!!

She made fun of me and isolated me from all my other friends. And yeah I agree with what you said

You both were very toxic and that's why you both have social anxiety! You both should ask each other why you both were so spiteful to each other! Honesty is needed here. She may have changed as well.