omg this is so crazy that this problem has come up on my feed because i’m kinda having the same problem.
can you use tampons? because if you can, that’s a starting point. i think it could be your hymen, where there’s a big enough hole for his finger (just) but not big enough to fit the actual penis in?
with me, i literally cant even fit a tampon or a finger and i’m a virgin, utterly TERRIFIED for my first time.
i would say to keep trying, maybe make him go really really slow and at different angles, if that doesn’t work then don’t worry because i’m basically in the same boat as you, except i’m having trouble with tampons not sex! sex WILL be trouble tho
how old are you? i’m 16, turning 17 in december. IF you try another several times and he still cant fit, try to get a doctors appointment because they WILL help i promise you. my friend had a hymen which meant she couldn’t use tampons and there’s a rlly easy surgery they do which literally takes 30 mins with general anaesthetic and then afterwards u can have sex perfectly fine
if it’s not a hymen problem, it could be vaginismus. it’s where your vagina muscles tense up without you trying to, and it means nothing can enter at all, and it’s painful.
i don’t know if i have hymen problem or vaginismus, or both. i wanna go to dr about it but i’m SO SO scared to tell my mum to book an appointment for it because i have to tell her everything. it’s so embarrasing and awkward i just couldn’t do it. but i NEED to see a doctor about it
like i said it’s crazy to see this question come up because i’m literally looking for answers myself, but trust me you are not alone. the amount of people i see on other forum sites saying “my boyfriends penis won’t fit it really hurts” it’s honeslty so common!
feel free to message me!