I am the last virgin in my friendship group

Original post by Anonymous

I am almost 18 and yesterday the last virgin except me in my friend group hooked up with a guy, so that leaves only me left.
I feel so insecure about this, and there's no reason for it since all of my friends are very accepting and rarely talk about sex. But I just feel so embarrassed and pressured even though I'm not being pressured. It's really stressing me out especially the idea of going to uni a virgin, but I can't bring myself to have some random hookup.
The 'last' friend was so unlikely too, I thought we would always be 'together in this' (not blaming her at all), because she never talks to boy, but I was wrong!
Anyone have some advice on how to deal with this?

You should only have sex when you feel ready. Dont just have sex cos all of friends have. TBH having your virginity is elite.

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username5428282

Why is everyone obsessed with losing their virginity? It doesn’t make you more of an adult or a better person. Losing your virginity because everyone else has had sex is incredibly silly. Relax and it will happen when you’re ready.

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Original post by Wannabevetnurse

You should only have sex when you feel ready. Dont just have sex cos all of friends have. TBH having your virginity is elite.

Yeah I'm not going to lose it if I'm not reading, I'm too much of a p*ssy for that. But this weird in between state is stressing me out sm

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Original post by YaliaV123

Why is everyone obsessed with losing their virginity? It doesn’t make you more of an adult or a better person. Losing your virginity because everyone else has had sex is incredibly silly. Relax and it will happen when you’re ready.

Yea that's true...
It's literally just implicit peer pressure. It feel embarrassing and everyone else has done it.
Also, everyone in my college (except for my friends) thinks I'm NOT a virgin and boys always suggest that we should do things, I feel so embarrassed on the inside knowing it's all a lie and I've never even kissed someone

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username5428282

Original post by Anonymous

Yea that's true...
It's literally just implicit peer pressure. It feel embarrassing and everyone else has done it.
Also, everyone in my college (except for my friends) thinks I'm NOT a virgin and boys always suggest that we should do things, I feel so embarrassed on the inside knowing it's all a lie and I've never even kissed someone

Are you ready to lose your virginity? A lot of people your age lie about what they’ve done and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Stand in your own truth and never let yourself be led like that. You have nothing to feel embarrassed about.

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Original post by Anonymous

Yea that's true...
It's literally just implicit peer pressure. It feel embarrassing and everyone else has done it.
Also, everyone in my college (except for my friends) thinks I'm NOT a virgin and boys always suggest that we should do things, I feel so embarrassed on the inside knowing it's all a lie and I've never even kissed someone

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah I'm not going to lose it if I'm not reading, I'm too much of a p*ssy for that. But this weird in between state is stressing me out sm

Dont worry about being inexperienced. Most boys just learn everything through porn....so when you have sex, be prepared for alot of random grunting and pushing....

Plus I knowhow you feel....I'm gonna go uni next year...without doing any kissing, or sexual stuff. It feels weird knowing I might be inexperienced but I'm pretty sure there will be other people. Also if you wait for someone...it'll probably feel better.

(edited 3 years ago)

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Original post by Wannabevetnurse

Dont worry about being inexperienced. Most boys just learn everything through porn....so when you have sex, be prepared for alot of random grunting and pushing....

Plus I knowhow you feel....I'm gonna go uni next year...without doing any kissing, or sexual stuff. It feels weird knowing I might be inexperienced but I'm pretty sure there will be other people. Also if you wait for someone...it'll probably feel better.

Glad we're in the same boat...and yes that's true

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username5326522

I swear to god all these threads about not losing virginity is bound to make me feel insecure about my virginess at 20. I never knew how important it was to people before joining TSR smh. Is being a virgin that bad?

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Original post by Moonlight rain

I swear to god all these threads about not losing virginity is bound to make me feel insecure about my virginess at 20. I never knew how important it was to people before joining TSR smh. Is being a virgin that bad?

wth I thought you were a teen fml

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becausethenight

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Original post by Anonymous

Yea that's true...
It's literally just implicit peer pressure. It feel embarrassing and everyone else has done it.
Also, everyone in my college (except for my friends) thinks I'm NOT a virgin and boys always suggest that we should do things, I feel so embarrassed on the inside knowing it's all a lie and I've never even kissed someone

In that case, how do you know they’re not all lying too :wink:

This is a very personal thing and it doesn’t reflect on you badly at all. Different people are ready or get an opportunity at different times, and most people who lose their virginity early regret it anyway.

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username5326522

Original post by Wannabevetnurse

wth I thought you were a teen fml

well that’s strange cause everyone irl says my personality is really mature for my age

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Original post by Moonlight rain

I swear to god all these threads about not losing virginity is bound to make me feel insecure about my virginess at 20. I never knew how important it was to people before joining TSR smh. Is being a virgin that bad?

Opposite way round for me, on TSR it feels like more people are in my position but irl it's the opposite.
And I dont' think it's that rare, but I'm in a friendship group that loves to party like every weekend and treats sex as if it's nothing, so that's why it bothers me so much

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Original post by becausethenight

In that case, how do you know they’re not all lying too :wink:

This is a very personal thing and it doesn’t reflect on you badly at all. Different people are ready or get an opportunity at different times, and most people who lose their virginity early regret it anyway.

That's a good point thanks :redface:

And I don't think they're lying just because they all have very detailed experiences and I know the boys they slept with who always boast about it too

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TBH...sometimes I want sex...somedays I just want a hug.....somedays I just want a gun.

DW about sex

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What uni are you going to lol?

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Ramipril

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Good grief it's just sex. Who cares if you haven't had it yet? What's wrong with going to university not having had sex? Do you think people openly talk about these kind of things or actually care about your sexual history? If you don't want to have a random hookup, don't.

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username5326522

Original post by Anonymous

Opposite way round for me, on TSR it feels like more people are in my position but irl it's the opposite.
And I dont' think it's that rare, but I'm in a friendship group that loves to party like every weekend and treats sex as if it's nothing, so that's why it bothers me so much

That’s exactly what I’m saying. TSR has a billion threads a day about virginity. I guess I am very different to the majority of the population then cause I’m not in a rush to have sex. Maybe when I eventually have it, I’ll keep wanting it but I have no temptation or urge to lose it. It’s such a toxic mindset.

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Original post by Anonymous

, but I'm in a friendship group that loves to party like every weekend and treats sex as if it's nothing, so that's why it bothers me so much

leave your friends.

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