Hi Anonymous,
University is a massive change so it's understandable that you're feeling anxious and overwhelmed by it. Remember you've only been here 24hours, so this won't represent your university experience as a whole. Make sure you're all unpacked and get your room feeling as homey as you can. Put your pjs on, get a nice hot drink and put on a comfort film/tv show to provide some short term relief. As you get to know things and settle in things will get easier for you. If your window isn't opening or there are any other problems with your room, get in touch with your accommodation maintenance service and get them to fix it for you.
I think you should get in touch with your student support services. You'll likely be able to find them on your university's student portal, and they will have experience in supporting students who feel exactly the same as you. I know you're not feeling up to it right now which is totally okay, but when you have a day where you feel a little bit better than yesterday then consider dropping them an email, or at least looking at their page on the university website. Sending an email doesn't mean you have to talk to them that day, and you don't have to say everything in the email, you could just say something like 'I've just started my first year and I'm struggling and feeling overwhelmed'
In terms of events, I would go to all events that are linked to your course as these will be the most helpful to you. The societies fair is also a good one to go to as well, but if this is too overwhelming then you'll likely find similar information on your student union's website. Maybe see if you can get a flatmate to go with you. I would try and explore a little bit, even if it's just to pop to the shops, as getting some fresh air and a change of scenery will help perk you up for a bit.
As you said, your flatmates are lovely, and to me it sounds like they don't view you as a burden as they were happy to comfort you the other night
. Maybe see if you can hangout 1 on 1 with them if it's easier than a big group, and take time to visit campus together, or ask one of them to cook a meal with you. You are not in the wrong for being upset and being homesick is totally normal. Myself and all of my friends had several moments when we were upset and wanted to go home so you're not alone with your feelings. Having a lot of people in my flat on the first night on uni would overwhelm me too!
In terms of cooking, BBC Good Foods have some recipes designed for students with little to no cooking experience
here. If this still feels a bit daunting, try something easier like spaghetti meatballs where you can buy premade pasta sauce. This is how I started off cooking at uni, and when I felt a bit more confident in my cooking I'd add my own extra bits to the sauce, then had a go at making my own sauce. This works well with curries too
. Another easy and yummy thing to make is a puff pastry tray bake. You basically buy a puff pastry roll, put it flat on a baking tray and add similar toppings that you'd put on a pizza. Pop it in the oven for however long the pastry packet says and it's done. You can get at least 3-4 portions from this. If you're not sure where the nearest shop is, do a quick google search, ask a flatmate or order groceries through uber eats/deliveroo. I ate a lot of microwave meals in my first week so grab a few of them to start off with.
I found that the feeling of being upset from homesickness got better the longer I stayed at uni. Making new friends and setting into my new routine helped ease it. If going home is what you need, see if you can visit home in about a week or so, and then every 3-4 weeks. Then you'll always have it to look forward to. Maybe see if your parents can come and visit you for a weekend instead?
Personally, I would try and stick it out for a month or so, but if your gut feeling is that this university isn't right for you then see if there's an option to transfer somewhere closer to home. It's okay if your uni isn't working out for you, ultimately the best thing to do is to go where you're happiest, even if it means going somewhere else or taking your time choosing the right place.
Lucy