Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and are in our early 20s. We love each other so much and our personalities gel together so well. He treats me really well and respects me so much.
However, he recently confessed to me that he 'fancies' one of my friends. It all started when she randomly decided to start changing in my room when we were in a group of our girl friends, but my boyfriend was there too. I know I shouldn't jump straight to blaming her, but I definitely found it so disrespectful that she decided it was appropriate to change whilst my boyfriend was in the room.
As for my boyfriend, he said he finds her attractive (which I don't mind as much, as I think you should still be able to find people attractive, like random people walking past) and he said that he sometimes thinks about how 'easier' it would be if he was with her instead. I know I can be an absolute ***** when we argue, but at the end of the day I have never thought of being with anyone else, and I was surprised he had thought this.
I do not know what to do. I don't know what is normal. I don't know who I should be upset with. I just feel really hurt right now because it isn't just simple attraction, it seems to involve feelings as well. I love my boyfriend and did see a future with him and I always felt treated well by him. He is very innocent and usually would cover his eyes when a sex scene with female nudity comes on in a movie because he doesn't want to 'betray' me or anything. He even is against porn. And once he got anxious about a girl who was trying to flirt with him and he told me immediately because he 'felt bad even though he did nothing'.
It confuses me because he does not seem like the person to cheat. He seems very loyal. And though he hasn't actually done anything with my friend, it just hurts when it is someone I am close to and I do feel betrayed by both.