We've been together five months, and I fell for him, partly, because of how
attentive and
romantic he was. He really blew me away with
cooked meals, and every time we came back to his after being out (for the good first few months) he'd light candles
all round the house, and
create a lovely atmosphere.
Now, nada. Meanwhile I've stepped the romance up in an attempt to rekindle it on his part, but nothing so far
I'm not expecting cooked meals every week, but it's little things like:-
- he always used to ask to see me more in advance, now the planning is slipping to last minute.
- Like I say, he used to 'set the mood' as it were for us sleeping over together - and the week we are going on a date thi w/e is usually the night I stop over. We are going to a thing the next day near to where he lives, so I asked if I should stay (because he hadn't mentioned it)...and his response was 'it'll be easier yeah'. Maybe I'm being over-sensitive, but it makes me feel like a convenience.
- Physical appearance - he's started not
bothering to shave sometimes when I see him. We went out on a date (with him unshaved) and he commented on how he'd need to sort it out for the day - so he looked 'presentable' for a thing he was going to with friends and family!
- On another date, he didn't even bother to
change/have a shower/put on aftershave after working all day...it was a thing I'd been looking forward to for ages/had really done myself up for, and I just felt like he'd made no effort.
Other than this, he still seems to care a lot about me - but as part of the reason I fell for him was his romantic side, I'm a bit off lately.
Taken for granted OR he's comfortable?