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Recently out gay guy

Hey guys, I don't post much but I'm 18 years old and I've recently been in the process of coming out, and although it has been a relief I can't really see a next step.

I can't see where I am going to meet other guys really because it seems like there are so few available. I don't know where to start to be honest.

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Reply 1

MrsSheldonCooper

Try gay bars? :smile:

Reply 2

samcarnall

Problem is I font think I could go in on my own

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Reply 3

MrsSheldonCooper

Original post by samcarnall

Problem is I font think I could go in on my own

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Get a lesbian mate to go with?

Reply 4

samcarnall

I don't have any

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Reply 5

Odd socks

are you at uni? you could see if there's a LGBT society, they often have nights out and socials

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Reply 6

samcarnall

I'm not right now but will be next year. I'd wait but even then there's no guarantee. Its just like a dead end really or that's how it feels

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Reply 7

Odd socks

Original post by samcarnall

I'm not right now but will be next year. I'd wait but even then there's no guarantee. Its just like a dead end really or that's how it feels

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it can be harder to meet people when you're not straight, I came out a year ago and ive only dated one girl since, but it depends on where you live. If you want to meet guys, have you considered internet dating or apps?

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beyknowles

Original post by samcarnall

I'm not right now but will be next year. I'd wait but even then there's no guarantee. Its just like a dead end really or that's how it feels

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this isn't because you're gay lol!!! that's a stupid idea

I haven't had a girlfriend in ages. it will come along when it's supposed to. you can't just expect to come out and then okay, on to the next step, it's not like that in the real world! (well unless you are very attractive)

Reply 9

samcarnall

I know but idk. I never know where to start with the internet stuff cause the ones I've tried have been awful

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Reply 10

samcarnall

So yeah pretty lost

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Reply 11

ForgetMe

If clubs are not a piece of cake for you, another option is dating sites. Clubs are not my scene either so I went onto dating sites and that's how I've met some other gay guys :h:

Reply 12

gagaslilmonsteruk

Do you not have a youth LGBT group in your area? My area has had one for the last few years. Never been to it myself, but I know it is expanding further out into surrounding areas - then again the population of the area is about 400,000. Officially we're 3 separate towns, but we're all pretty much on each other's doorstep, so it's kind of 3 towns for the price of 1.

Reply 13

samcarnall

I know about dating sites but I have found that the majority are just sexual and really crude. But yeah in terms of the groups I'm from Sheffield which is a big city so there is probably something similar to that

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Reply 14

indigobluesss

Firstly grats on coming out!!

Personally, I think you should just take your time... There's no rush :smile:

Once you get to uni next year, you should just join the LGBT society and start making friends there. They'll teach you a lot of stuff *wink* XD

Reply 15

Izzyeviel

I don't recommend meeting anyone online for a while, men are ***** and will see you as someone they can take advantage of.

You will meet people whilst out and about so my advice to you is just get comfortable being you.

Reply 16

cheshiremum

I'd agree with the poster above (R Dragon) - don't worry about it. Hope you are living more easily in your skin having come out, and that people who matter are cool with it. Next year should be easier - universities are much bigger than schools - Uni LGBT society is a good place to start meeting people, not just for a relationship, but as people you could go out to a bar or club with. Just stay safe, and remember to do some studying as well!