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Are your parents strict regarding your grades?

If so, how strict? I'll start - my dad won't accept anything below an A*. Mum is a bit more chill and thinks anything below an A is shameful to the family name.

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Reply 1

Mayhem™

No, my parents know that I want to achieve the best grades possible so they let me be.

Reply 2

stirkee

my parents wanted me to do well but they never pressured me or anything, they knew I could just get on with it and get the good results we all wanted.

Reply 3

Indeterminate

Nope. They just wanted me to try my best and forget about the result :biggrin:

Reply 4

flippantri

Original post by Mayhem™

No, my parents know that I want to achieve the best grades possible so they let me be.

Way to make my parents look like ****. :ashamed:

Reply 5

flippantri

Original post by Indeterminate

Nope. They just wanted me to try my best and forget about the result :biggrin:

Would you say that motivates you more? :colone:

Reply 6

the greatest

Original post by flippantri

If so, how strict? I'll start - my dad won't accept anything below an A*. Mum is a bit more chill and thinks anything below an A is shameful to the family name.

Are your parents asian by any chance?

Reply 7

acupofgreentea

Not really. My mum and step-dad weren't / aren't very academic-focused themselves, so didn't place a lot of pressure on high grades.

In fact, my mum told me I could feel free to get a U in RE as she didn't care much about me getting good grades in something religion-related.

Reply 8

sleepysnooze

nah. they wouldn't tend to pressure me - they'd be very supportive for me getting good grades, but I'd never get punished or scolded for getting bad grades
but they *did* for better or worse give me the impression that university was the only viable option after school

Reply 9

Duck10101

Original post by flippantri

If so, how strict? I'll start - my dad won't accept anything below an A*. Mum is a bit more chill and thinks anything below an A is shameful to the family name.

Quite honestly I wish they were harsher about my grades. I WANT them to tell me with anything under A*, but the don't. :frown:

#FirstWorldProblemsXD

Reply 10

flippantri

Original post by the greatest

Are your parents asian by any chance?

Nope, worse, Eastern European.

Reply 11

lillyroselove

yes omg. anything below an A is basically seen as a fail in my parents eyes. and it's stressing me the **** out :frown:

Reply 12

Shostakovish

No - but they do care if I don't try.

Reply 13

flippantri

Original post by acupofgreentea

To be fair, my mum says the same about Religion and also languages ("do they really matter?"). Her interests lie within STEM.

Reply 14

BrokenLife

Original post by Indeterminate

Nope. They just wanted me to try my best and forget about the result :biggrin:

I know how it feels when your parents say this. :u:

My grandparents always tell me that. Omg I remember not performing well once and my granddad was like 'why you worrying?Try harder next time'. Aww that made so happy! :h:

Reply 15

flippantri

Original post by lillyroselove

yes omg. anything below an A is basically seen as a fail in my parents eyes. and it's stressing me the **** out :frown:

You do you, try your hardest. Deep down, they'll be proud even if you fail to achieve the A's they so desperately desire.

Reply 16

Art.Sibande

There's quite a bit of pressure on the small exams/pre-publics, but leading up to big exams (e.g. GCSEs last summer), they tend to pamper me and come out with stuff like "as long as you try your hardest".
I think it's because they assume that if I'm not doing well in the small exams then I'm not working hard enough but they recognise that when it comes to public exams, I just need to be in the right frame of mind and that putting pressure on me/stressing me out isn't going to help in the slightest.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 17

nucdev

Original post by Indeterminate

Nope. They just wanted me to try my best and forget about the result :biggrin:

Sounds like they were trying to give you a lesson from the Gita :laugh:

Reply 18

jamesthehustler

i said to my parents i get what i get school is a load of s**t i can make more with what i have learnt in my chosen area there people making millions a year doing what i do

Reply 19

RiskVsReward

Sort of. They got extremely pissed when I messed up on A2 haha. But they trust that I try hard and will try again to do better!
Come from a non-academic family.