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I cheated on her and I don’t know what to do.

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The right thing to do would be to tell her

however odds are, that if he tells her she's going to dump him, and he obviously "thinks" he loves her very much ..and he wants to stay with her. So you can see why he is refusing.

Those people who always come into topics like these scolding the OP and telling them they're scum etc ....would do a better chance of conviencing the OP's to come clean by perhaps sympathising a little and perhaps giving the impression that there is hope she will understand and give him another chance.

probably too late for doing that now, but next time this topic comes round it'd be worth doing if you actually want to convince someone to come clean.

Reply 21

kekedoyouloveme?

Original post by Anonymous

To clarify, I feel terrible about it and am just trying to justify it to myself. I feel sick about it and I have barely eaten.

It wasn’t sex, it was kissing, cuddling, and at one point dry humping. It’s terrible I know.

I’m still not going to tell her though because nothing positive will come out of that. Rather, I’m going to just use my guilt as motivation to make her happy and never do it again.

you have to tell her itll come out in the end and it'll be worse for you its damn selfish of you not to tell her she deserves to know the truth no matter how hurtful it is whether she stays is up to her, i mean at least you didnt actually have sex but still cuddling is quite affectionate lmaoo, how can you love your girlfriend and cuddle someone else, thats like a big no no for girls, nah dude... But anyway just tell her, it'll ease your guilt too a little bit...

Reply 22

DrawTheLine

Original post by Anonymous

Okay, then think of it this way.

It was your girlfriend dry humping with another guy when you're across the country. She was happy engaging in sexual activities with him, not giving a moment's thought to you. Would you still want to be with her after this?

Your attitude is disgusting and she deserves someone so much better than you.

Something positive will come of telling her - she will be able to end it with you and find someone who actually loves and respects her. You don't deserve a happy ending with her.

Reply 23

Anonymous #4

Sleeping with someone is not the same as watching porn - it's amazing what you can tell yourself when you can't cope with the truth.

Why are you bothering with a long-distance relationship at your age anyway? If you see her rarely, then the truth is that you barely know each other. Talk of marriage in that contact is childish. End the relationship and sleep around if that's what you want to do.