I'm 15 how do i tell my mum I'm not a virgin
I told someone that I had sex with a 30yo man and they referred me to social services. Because what we did is illegal, they're forcing me to tell my mum and I don't know what to say. I'm scared she'll hurt me because she's not exactly someone who's easy to talk to. any advice?
Original post by Anonymous
I told someone that I had sex with a 30yo man and they referred me to social services. Because what we did is illegal, they're forcing me to tell my mum and I don't know what to say. I'm scared she'll hurt me because she's not exactly someone who's easy to talk to. any advice?
keep it to yourself!
Don't tell her then. You don't need to as you aren't required to, but do speak to someone....... it's not a good situation to be in
Original post by fideo94
keep it to yourself!
I don't think that's the best thing to do. If social services know that Anon hasn't told their mother, they might tell Anon's mother themselves, so either way she might find out. It's better that Anon's mother finds out the truth from her child than from the social services, I would say.
You should tell her... that man took advantage of you. You may not feel like it yet but you’ll learn and understand later.
Original post by Anonymous
I told someone that I had sex with a 30yo man and they referred me to social services. Because what we did is illegal, they're forcing me to tell my mum and I don't know what to say. I'm scared she'll hurt me because she's not exactly someone who's easy to talk to. any advice?
Can you ask someone else (your SW maybe?) to tell her?
Original post by Anonymous
I told someone that I had sex with a 30yo man and they referred me to social services. Because what we did is illegal, they're forcing me to tell my mum and I don't know what to say. I'm scared she'll hurt me because she's not exactly someone who's easy to talk to. any advice?
Hi there
That sounds like a really tough situation to be in. It must be really difficult for you.
This isn't our area of expertise, so I'd like to signpost you to contacting an organisation to help young people. The Mix provides expert support for young people, so they can discuss your options with you 0808 808 4994. You can talk to them anonymously or use their 1-2-1 chat service. Another option is to contact Childline on 0800 1111, which is for anyone under the age of 18. It could be really helpful to speak to someone who has the specialist knowledge to help you and keep you safe.
The age difference is worrying, not to mention illegal. As your partner is significantly older and you are below the age of consent there could be some serious legal consequences for his actions. The Mix writes about age gaps in their age of consent article. The part about power imbalances with age gaps is super relevant here.
Just to clarify, is it social services who are forcing you to tell your mum, or the person that you told in the first place? I wasn't 100% sure.
Please get in touch with a service specifically to help young people - they will know exactly what to do and be super supportive of you. Even if what they suggest seems like a scary thing to do, it'll be for the best. Good luck!
Daisy
Original post by Sexwise
Hi there
That sounds like a really tough situation to be in. It must be really difficult for you.
This isn't our area of expertise, so I'd like to signpost you to contacting an organisation to help young people. The Mix provides expert support for young people, so they can discuss your options with you 0808 808 4994. You can talk to them anonymously or use their 1-2-1 chat service. Another option is to contact Childline on 0800 1111, which is for anyone under the age of 18. It could be really helpful to speak to someone who has the specialist knowledge to help you and keep you safe.
The age difference is worrying, not to mention illegal. As your partner is significantly older and you are below the age of consent there could be some serious legal consequences for his actions. The Mix writes about age gaps in their age of consent article. The part about power imbalances with age gaps is super relevant here.
Just to clarify, is it social services who are forcing you to tell your mum, or the person that you told in the first place? I wasn't 100% sure.
Please get in touch with a service specifically to help young people - they will know exactly what to do and be super supportive of you. Even if what they suggest seems like a scary thing to do, it'll be for the best. Good luck!
Daisy
That sounds like a really tough situation to be in. It must be really difficult for you.
This isn't our area of expertise, so I'd like to signpost you to contacting an organisation to help young people. The Mix provides expert support for young people, so they can discuss your options with you 0808 808 4994. You can talk to them anonymously or use their 1-2-1 chat service. Another option is to contact Childline on 0800 1111, which is for anyone under the age of 18. It could be really helpful to speak to someone who has the specialist knowledge to help you and keep you safe.
The age difference is worrying, not to mention illegal. As your partner is significantly older and you are below the age of consent there could be some serious legal consequences for his actions. The Mix writes about age gaps in their age of consent article. The part about power imbalances with age gaps is super relevant here.
Just to clarify, is it social services who are forcing you to tell your mum, or the person that you told in the first place? I wasn't 100% sure.
Please get in touch with a service specifically to help young people - they will know exactly what to do and be super supportive of you. Even if what they suggest seems like a scary thing to do, it'll be for the best. Good luck!
Daisy
thank you so much for the links ect. I'll definitely check them out.
To answer your question, my social worker is forcing me to tell my mum.
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