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Be honest... are looks important for guys/girls?

Anonymous #1

Just curious because I’m so insecure with the way I look and maybe that’s why I am single all these years

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Reply 1

itsyahg

Original post by Anonymous

Just curious because I’m so insecure with the way I look and maybe that’s why I am single all these years

they say that looks are only 20%, the rest is personality. I'm sure you're attractive, some people find certain types of people attractive. Maybe if you feel insecure you should start becoming friends with them first. then once you get to know them you will feel more confident asking them out. they will see your personality first before you ask them out, which is the best thing

Reply 2

exams6700

Original post by Anonymous

Just curious because I’m so insecure with the way I look and maybe that’s why I am single all these years

Trust me, looks isn't the main thing. It's personality. Don't be insecure. There is somebody out there who will love you for your looks and personality!
Beauty lies within!
Hope you find true love soon

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thank you all so much! I think i’m just really insecure because all the guys I’ve talk to either has always ghosted me or just never liked me back. I’m also going to be moving to London next summer and hope I have a good chance of meeting someone

Reply 4

pinesandapples2001

For me, as long as the guy is plain-looking looking or better its fine. Personality matters though, my preference is social, funny and sarcastic, and smart :smile:

not necessarily academically, just street smart.

Reply 5

itsyahg

Original post by Anonymous

i live in london and because of how big the population is, i'm sure you'll find multiple people

Reply 6

Justbeingmyself

Although there has to be a some level of physical attraction, personality carries much greater weight.

Reply 7

UWS

Looks get you through the door, personality keeps you there.

Reply 8

csnerd

yes looks are important, but so is personality. if I'm looking for a date, I would be more attracted to an intelligent woman with average looks than a hot woman with a 'basic *****' personality.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

A big cuddly guy once stole my heart with his amazing personality 💓 I had to go away and never saw him again (I’m 18)

Reply 10

londonmyst

It varies according to an individuals personal taste and attraction deal-breakers.
People that are looks attracted usually won't date someone that is not their usual 'type' in terms of physical appearance, height and body shape.
While people who are personality attracted focus upon finding a partner with an interesting & attractive personality and usually have fewer physical dating deal-breakers.

I'm an average looking, 5'1 female and personality attracted.
I only date guys older than me and have quite a few dating deal-breakers.
Still get plenty of guys wanting to chat and asking me out.

Reply 11

ANM775

Original post by Anonymous

Just curious because I’m so insecure with the way I look and maybe that’s why I am single all these years

most people here are just giving fairytale answers

You sound like you are female.

A guy will happily have sex with you, even if you're nothing special to look at, but if he thinks he can do better he won't stick around for long..

You can probably get a bf online if you go with online dating. You will probably get a lot of messages. but don't think you can land some Chad for a monogamous relationship.....
maybe for one night you can if you catch my drift , but if you're not at least a 7 you've got no chance realistically...

Reply 12

Occitanie

Let's be honest, what's the first thing that attracts you to a stranger?

Looks.

It's only when you get to speak that you have a chance to figure out their personality. I would say it's 60-40 (Looks-Personality)

and i'm Batman..

Its not all about looks, personality is a very important factor. I dont really care if the person is good looking or not, for me, personality is more important.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 15

csnerd

yes looks are important, but they aren't the be-all and end-all. i would rather date an intelligent woman with average looks than a model-like woman with a basic personality.

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

Having good looks is important for sure and anyone that says otherwise is lying. At first glance what will people notice? Looks. Even getting a job is easier when you are better looking.

But having a good personality will help, if you look good and have a bad personality in the end everyone will be sick of you. So whilst, looks are important - personalities are also equally important. so don't undermine yourself!

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Reply 17

parmezanne

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Initially, yes. But for me, girls with only looks only goes so far. Their personality will sway me one way or another in an instant! :smile:

Reply 18

rpmf224

Looks attract people but personality makes them stay.

Reply 19

Surnia

Think about appearance, not looks. It doesn't need expensive clothes or haircuts, but if you look like you take care of yourself, it can be a good indicator that you'll take care of someone else.

However, a genuine smile is a good start (it was for me when I first met my now-bf) and personality will always win out over looks.