It’s my 18th tomorrow and I’ll be spending it in quarantine. My friends will be coming round to drop my presents off, like I did for their birthdays, but today I realised that they want to stay for a while. As in come into my garden/house and chat for a few hours. I know I sound like a nasty person when I say this but I really don’t want them to stay. The main reason being that my dad is at high risk of the virus so my anxiety has been through the roof since the beginning of lockdown. I know they have been in contact with several people/broken the rules of lockdown, so they could potentially have it. I would feel a lot more comfortable if they simply dropped their presents off like I did on their birthdays. But they’ve already decided amongst themselves that they're going to be staying for a while.
I asked my sister for advice and she acted as if I was a bad friend. She said that there’s no harm in us all sitting in the back alley socially distanced like her friends did last week. But I’d really prefer if they didn’t for my peace of mind. I sound like a right ******** but I really don’t want them to stay. I made a post not so long ago about how they keep asking me to come out and meet them, despite knowing that my dad is at risk. Even though I tell them over and over again that I’m very worried about him, they just don’t seem to get it. They don’t have any family members who are at risk so their perspective is very different to mine.
I don’t know how to tell them without sounding like a b*tch. To make matters a little more complicated, one of them is recovering from a broken ankle. So, according to my sister, if I don’t let her stay and sit down, this makes me an even worse friend. I’m thinking of making up a little white lie, telling them that my dad said he’s not comfortable with it or even that he’s showing symptoms (bit extreme I know). But I feel like everyone treats me as if I’m crazy when my worries are quite legitimate. What’s your advice? How do I tell them nicely?