Best friend now major loser, contacts me

Hey there So, I had a best friend since kindergarden. We were friends from age 4 - 14, so 10 years.
We always had each other, other people came and went.
I moved at age 14 and although I wanted to stay in contact, he just cut off all communication. I tried to write with him for the next 2 - 3 years but he was distant so I let it be.
The last few years he contacted me in totally random intervals. Last time was August 2019, then a break for 1 year and now he contacted me again, saying the time with me was the best he ever had, he misses me, he wished we had stayed in contact. In the past, everybody said he was totally in love with me and honestly, I think it’s true. I also liked him later on but we were very young.
Now he’s 20, a teen dad (has a kid since 2017/18 with a girlfriend, has no job, didn’t finish school and is kind of a loser tbh). Tells me he wants to move in with girlfriend and kid.

And I’m just wondering wtf. Why the hell is he contacting me. We had another best friend since 2008, but he has no contact with her anymore (although she didn’t move). And since I moved in 2014, 6 years have passed. What the hell is this even normal?

Is it worth the effort to dwell on or try and make sense of? People have sketchy memories. Be friends, dont be friends , keep him at arms length, you decide. Just dont waste time on it.

Hey there So, I had a best friend since kindergarden. We were friends from age 4 - 14, so 10 years.
We always had each other, other people came and went.
I moved at age 14 and although I wanted to stay in contact, he just cut off all communication. I tried to write with him for the next 2 - 3 years but he was distant so I let it be.
The last few years he contacted me in totally random intervals. Last time was August 2019, then a break for 1 year and now he contacted me again, saying the time with me was the best he ever had, he misses me, he wished we had stayed in contact. In the past, everybody said he was totally in love with me and honestly, I think it’s true. I also liked him later on but we were very young.
Now he’s 20, a teen dad (has a kid since 2017/18 with a girlfriend, has no job, didn’t finish school and is kind of a loser tbh). Tells me he wants to move in with girlfriend and kid.

And I’m just wondering wtf. Why the hell is he contacting me. We had another best friend since 2008, but he has no contact with her anymore (although she didn’t move). And since I moved in 2014, 6 years have passed. What the hell is this even normal?

True. I have to admit that I’m really disappointed because he was really different in the past (wanted to study, so something with his life) and yes, I was kind of ‚in love‘ with him and never since had a relationship that was quite as deep. So it kind of hurts that he contacts me, practically telling me he misses me and can’t stop thinking about it (literally these words), although he has a girlfriend and a kid now. I mean, what kind of person does that. It’s disgusting.

He contacted you because he isnt successful and has no chances of making new friends.
He might want to use you.

but if you get along, go ahead and resume the relationship.

I think you are being a bit harsh and unkind on him.

Sometimes in life you will find people are weak and have failings, being mean to them isnt always the way.
He has lost his way, if he was ever a friend then maybe just wish him well but not for you.

Call him a loser all you want but life has a way of biting you in the bum. Move on to your new life.

I really don’t know what you mean by using me. I don’t have feelings for him anymore and academically speaking, we are on Totally different levels and interests. And we live far away from each other

I would steer clear, if he's knocked up one girl then he could do easily do so with you and then move on again. He's responsibility should be with his girlfriend and child now, tell him that. Tell him you have no hard feelings and cut contact with him. You need a single unattached guy who is responsible not a guy who has nothing to lose in playing around and messing up others lives. He could still have a good life with his girlfriend and child but if he sees an easy out my guess is that he will take it, again and again.