would you fall out with someone who complains about studies

Most people are more aware of the quality of their studies (and what is on offer) during the pandemic. They are also aware of their health, in a way they might not have been before.

Is there anything else they have to offer, as a friend?

For example, do you have anything in common, are they funny, do they accept you with all your faults, are they reliable, are they there for you if you need them? These are the really important aspects of a friendship.

I am going to call @harrysbar for this, because she is a friend I made on TSR. We have a good laugh together, but, more importantly, we would be there for each other through thick and thin.

What do you have to offer your friend, in return?

Most people are more aware of the quality of their studies (and what is on offer) during the pandemic. They are also aware of their health, in a way they might not have been before.

Is there anything else they have to offer, as a friend?

For example, do you have anything in common, are they funny, do they accept you with all your faults, are they reliable, are they there for you if you need them? These are the really important aspects of a friendship.

I am going to call @harrysbar for this, because she is a friend I made on TSR. We have a good laugh together, but, more importantly, we would be there for each other through thick and thin.

What do you have to offer your friend, in return?

Most people are more aware of the quality of their studies (and what is on offer) during the pandemic. They are also aware of their health, in a way they might not have been before.

Is there anything else they have to offer, as a friend?

For example, do you have anything in common, are they funny, do they accept you with all your faults, are they reliable, are they there for you if you need them? These are the really important aspects of a friendship.

I am going to call @harrysbar for this, because she is a friend I made on TSR. We have a good laugh together, but, more importantly, we would be there for each other through thick and thin.

What do you have to offer your friend, in return?

So you don't anymore? Why did you stop? How much help did you give them And what was the friend's reaction to this?

Hi Oxford Mum

I think OP needs to give us a lot more information about their situation if they expect a decent answer so we have some context. I mean I wouldn't fall out with a friend who complained about their studies or health from time to time but I suppose if someone was always negative and never asked about your problems only theirs then I would eventually get tired of them as it could come across as self absorbed.

Why does the friend say you are selfish? What do they backchat about? Do you never criticise them? etc etc

I'm sorry but for your friend to say that you need to come out of your own little bubble it sounds like this was not just one incident but an ongoing issue that your friends have noticed with you.

You obviously do have a health issue that is very upsetting to you but these comments did not come out of nowhere. Self reflection is hard for all of us but no one's perfect so I suggest you try to think about things from their point of view and ask yourself have you always shown as much interest in their lives and problems as you could have done.

I'm sorry but for your friend to say that you need to come out of your own little bubble it sounds like this was not just one incident but an ongoing issue that your friends have noticed with you.

You obviously do have a health issue that is very upsetting to you but these comments did not come out of nowhere. Self reflection is hard for all of us but no one's perfect so I suggest you try to think about things from their point of view and ask yourself have you always shown as much interest in their lives and problems as you could have done.

I thought you said you had already left education, because of your health, so it would appear she no longer has any reason to be jealous of you?

It's a fine balance - yes we need to talk about our emotions but equally friends can get sick of it if they start to feel like you are burdening them with more negativity than they can handle.

I would speak to your school counsellor or doctor about it and see if you can make an appointment with a counsellor where you can offload your feelings in a safe place.