Does everyone have doubts about your other half clubbing without you?

Agreed, but on the other hand.. for what reason would his gf not allow his inclusion into her socialising with her friends?

I recently went out clubbing with my gf. I came back after going to get drinks and she was cuddling one of her guy mates that I’ve had suspicions of since day 1. I didn’t know what to think so I left and she blocked me out of no where. She claims that she wants to go clubbing with them alone as she needs her own time however I get a big feeling that she’s going because of him and that they’re doing something together. We’ve since spoken and gotten back together. However, I’m still scared that she’s going to cheat with him as I’m not “allowed” to go with them. Does anyone have any thoughts? Thanks.

The reason she gave. They're her friends and she wants to socialise with them herself. And that is absolutely fair enough. She hasn't completely barred him. He was literally with them in the background given in the first post. But she says she wants to go clubbing with them, and that's fine.

To be perfectly honest the mention of her blocking him and then them getting back together makes this sound volatile anyway. But the answer to the question is no, people in healthy relationships do not have doubts about their other half going out clubbing without them, because they trust their partner. And yes, that even applies if you think others will hit on your other half. My wife would get hit on all the time when she went out without me. Amazingly she had this incredible power to say no to those people. And that's it.

The op stated that he was told he was “not allowed” to spend time with her and her friends.. is that not being barred by definition?

I recently went out clubbing with my gf. I came back after going to get drinks and she was cuddling one of her guy mates that I’ve had suspicions of since day 1. I didn’t know what to think so I left and she blocked me out of no where. She claims that she wants to go clubbing with them alone as she needs her own time however I get a big feeling that she’s going because of him and that they’re doing something together. We’ve since spoken and gotten back together. However, I’m still scared that she’s going to cheat with him as I’m not “allowed” to go with them. Does anyone have any thoughts? Thanks.

If you spit the dummy and storm off from nights out in fits of jealousy... you can't really expect invited or welcomed again.

Hence why i asked if it was because the op was displaying negative behaviour.. did you even read my full reply or are you just here for a disagreement?

I did, I merely offered some context as to why the OP is maybe no longer welcome.

I recently went out clubbing with my gf. I came back after going to get drinks and she was cuddling one of her guy mates that I’ve had suspicions of since day 1. I didn’t know what to think so I left and she blocked me out of no where. She claims that she wants to go clubbing with them alone as she needs her own time however I get a big feeling that she’s going because of him and that they’re doing something together. We’ve since spoken and gotten back together. However, I’m still scared that she’s going to cheat with him as I’m not “allowed” to go with them. Does anyone have any thoughts? Thanks.

I did, I merely offered some context as to why the OP is maybe no longer welcome.

I think you should start cuddling your girl- friends, infront of your girlfriend. Let's all just be disrespectful no?

They're definitely up to something. Best to dump her and find someone else.

It's understandable that you are feeling anxious and uncertain about the situation. It's important to communicate your concerns with your girlfriend and have an open and honest conversation about what happened and how you feel. It's also important to establish boundaries and expectations for your relationship moving forward.

If you're not comfortable with her going out alone with this guy, it's important to express that and discuss potential compromises or solutions. It's important to trust your instincts and have a discussion about what you both want and need from the relationship.

Ultimately, if you feel like your girlfriend is not respecting your boundaries or if you continue to feel uneasy about the situation, it may be important to reassess whether this relationship is right for you. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any relationship.

You are too young to be filled with worry and anxiety over whether your GF is being faithful or not. She clearly has her eyes on other blokes and that is perfectly fine. It also doesn't sound like you both share a common understanding of what being in a relationship means. If she thinks cuddling another bloke whilst you are there is okay, she clearly has no respect for you and has no boundaries where your relationship is conerned.

You are understandably not comfortable with it, so you need to make a decision before you get too invested in this relationship. Leave this girl and find yourself, someone, who you can trust and with whom there is mutual respect.

Don't be mistaken! the more of this you tolerate, the more your GF is going to push boundaries as she now knows that whatever she does you will hang around hoping for some crumbs. Don't be that guy! just because she has no respect for you doesn't mean you should lose respect for yourself.