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Have not made any close friends at university

Hey Everyone,
I am coming to the end of my first year at Warwick studying History and have made only acquaintances and no real friends.
What should I do? Anyone else in the same position?
I'm in a similar situation at York (I'm first year too). I speak to people at society things and during my course (it's the exam period atm though) and I've met lovely people but I have no good friends here that I can just hang out with comfortably. I'm friends with one of my flatmates, but we don't necessarily talk that often... although when we do, we sometimes do have long chats so I suppose that's nice. I'm trying to stay hopeful! I don't exactly have any advice, but you're not the only one : )
Original post by Molly.222
Hey Everyone,
I am coming to the end of my first year at Warwick studying History and have made only acquaintances and no real friends.
What should I do? Anyone else in the same position?

Sup mate, socialising with new people can be quite tough but it’s only your first year maybe the reason why you have acquaintances is cause you might be too nervous to socialise with them not to assume or anything but make an effort then just the “small talk” find someone who has the same interest as you then go from there, good luck 👍
Consider yourself lucky, I didn't make any acquaintances either lolol.
As for advice - what do you want me to say - give up?
I think the only advice to give would be to step out of your comfort zone and try to talk to as many people as possible. It's not actually that uncommon to have made few friends, it's just that the people who are partying all the time and chatting to their friends tend to stand out way more.
Original post by Molly.222
Hey Everyone,
I am coming to the end of my first year at Warwick studying History and have made only acquaintances and no real friends.
What should I do? Anyone else in the same position?

Hey, I'm Scarlet.

I'm sorry you feel like this, making close friends at university can be very daunting as it requires a lot of effort, so feeling like this is very normal.
I feel like meeting new people/acquaintances can be easy but making really close friends can be so difficult. The fact that you're in first year, means that you still have so much more time and many more opportunities to make some close friends, so don't worry.

I would recommend joining societies if you haven't already, as this would give you a chance to meet people with the same or similar interests to you, and this gives you some common ground to initiate conversations. Also, I'd recommend joining online forums for your university or your accommodation as a way of meeting new people.

I hope this helps - Scarlet, Sheffield Hallam Student Ambassador.
Original post by Molly.222
Hey Everyone,
I am coming to the end of my first year at Warwick studying History and have made only acquaintances and no real friends.
What should I do? Anyone else in the same position?


Hi there,

My best advice would be to get involved in some societies! They are fantastic ways to get meeting people who are similar to you and have similar interests, especially if you join sports teams or other non academic societies your university offers.

I hope this helps,
Ellen
Y3 Medical Student
Uni of Sunderland
Digital Ambassador
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Join a new society that really appeals to you and throw yourself in to it and to meeting a few new people
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Original post by Molly.222
Hey Everyone,
I am coming to the end of my first year at Warwick studying History and have made only acquaintances and no real friends.
What should I do? Anyone else in the same position?


Hi @Molly.222

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Like others have mentioned have you thought about joining a society? Joining a society that are based on your interests and hobbies may allow you to meet and befriend people with the same interests and hobbies as you.

You could also think about joining university social media group chats or you could get to know the acquaintances you've made.

Are there any job opportunities on campus? You could think about getting a job, for example, in the students union, this is another way of getting to know other people and potentially befriending them.

I hope this has been of some help!
Please don't hesitate to ask anymore questions :smile:
Aaliya ~ 4th year pharmacy student ~ University of Huddersfield
it takes time and effort to get to know people and develop deeper friendships. you need to be proactive and put yourself out there; start conversations with people, invite people to hang out. your acquaintainces is probably the best place to start as you already have a bit of a rapport.

clubs and societies are the best way. meet people with similar interests so it;s much easier to start a conversation
all societiess (pretty much) will have facebook groups and there will be facebook groups for the university so you could just pop a post up seeing if people were free and wanted to hang out if that's easier.

or if they're on your course, why not ask if they want to get coffee/lunch etc after a lecture

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