can going to uni ruin relationships?

hi, my boyfriend is going to university soon (this september) , hes going for three years and will be 21 when he finishes. he’s 18 now and im 19. we are a school year between but only six months difference in age. we have been dating for a few months now and we are so strong together but im questioning my own career too.
i do a-levels from home and am thinking of doing an extra year so i will be 21 when i finish my a-levels. i was thinking about career options, i used to want to do nursing/social work but i knew that it’s too sociable for me. i still love medical stuff, i really want to try to do diagnostic radiography and work my way up to do sonography but that would be a total of 5 years in a row of not seeing each other properly. i haven’t spoken to him yet as im not so sure yet. i dont want our relationship to go down hill but at the same time i would love it.
im also going to re take science , its so embarrassing as i didn’t pass it and i feel a bit dumb but oh well and i need to take a level biology.
any thoughts?

Is he going quite far or will it just be a regular commuting from home to university.

Is he going quite far or will it just be a regular commuting from home to university.

he’s applying thru clearing so idk yet

but ye he is living there

Something tells me maybe LDR

If that’s the case then you’ll have to cooperate with LDR

Relationships can certainly be tested by going to uni as there are a lot of factors involved. Long distance relationships I gather can be quite hard for both parties to manage, and even if not a LDR the very different schedules and expectations of each could cause tension. Ultimately if you are accepting of him going to uni one would hope he would be accepting of your educational aspirations - and as long as you're both on the same page, you can work together in trying to figure out how to make the relationship work

yes, that sounds perfect. it’s just a scary thing because i overthink if anything goes wrong but we are both close so i’m sure we will be okay. i think i will need to seek therapy for my anxiety for everything and then i think we will be okay. i really do hope so
i’ll speak to him about it later tonight through messages as my communication is pretty bad (not because we aren’t close and i can speak to him fine usually but i think my anxiety needs to calm down and i have autism). do u think it’s bad if i tell him through messages instead of in person?
i think most of the issue is me and my anxiety which i dont know why it is like this because ive never been this bad but i think it’s because ive left it.

I think it's probably sensible to talk about in person at some point, if you aren't going to see each other soon though then broaching it over message might be practical. Just try and avoid something cryptic like "we need to talk" without further information as that will likely make him think it's something bad and set a negative tone from the start Just be straightforward about your hopes for the future!

we’re seeing each other today, however, i think ill wait until he gets all his results and uni sorted as hes stressed about that. so ill tell him after his results day. thanks for your help!! 🤗

I think that is sensible, clearing can be a pretty hectic and stressful period!